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This is breathtaking!

Hello crocuses!!!!!

Just enough time for a little reading of Adrift, our @bluebookclub.bsky.social book for March, sipping of coffee, and relaxing with my kitty before I make blueberry danishes from scratch!

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#BookSky

Blueberry Basil Danish Baking!

Entry 3- I put both granulated sugar and powdered sugar in the compote. The powdered sugar was for the cream cheese. From Entry 1 you can see how many notes I’ve had to add to the original recipe (she updated it over time.). 1 more note added.

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#baking #danishes

Update on Hello Beuatiful.

It’s a DNF at 17%.

I was so bored. I will note I don’t often enjoy books about the unfurling of a family’s lives though.

I also found out about a major plot point that happens later on in the story that I have no desire to read about.

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#BookSky #DNF

Breathe for me.

You are realistic, you are goal directed, & you're focused only on the next micro choice in front of you today.

You focus on self talk, mental focus, & physiology, because that's what sustainable trauma recovery is actually about.

Breathe. Blink. Focus.

You cannot & did not "make" or "let" them abuse or neglect you.

That's true whether you were a child or an adult.

Staying the f*ck away from feelings & memories associated w/ our trauma does nothing but guarantee they will continue to live in our body, nervous system, & endocrine system exactly as they do right now.

If nothing changes, nothing changes.

We don't just mourn people when they die. Often we're actually mourning whole eras of our life.

Even when somebody we feel negatively about dies, we might still have a strong, sad reaction-- because it's not about the person. It's about much broader, more abstract loss.

Don't let the fact that your journal was weaponized against you once upon a time keep you from using journaling as a tool in your trauma recovery now. "They" shouldn't get to decide what tools you do & don't have access to (&, not for nothing, journaling is a core recovery tool).

So your recovery day isn't perfect, your recovery skills aren't perfect, & your recovery attitude's not perfect. Know who else's trauma recovery is imperfect? Every goddamn survivor on the face of the planet. Self included.

Easy does it. Think "good enough" & get through today.

I believe you can get through today, I believe you can get through tonight, & I believe you can find a way to advance your trauma recovery .01% in this 24 hours.

Breathe; blink; focus.

Demanding someone quit fantasizing about suicide without supporting them in developing a better quality of life isn't going to work. Chances are they're suicidal at least partly because of all the demands they've endured already-- without realistic support.

It’s so cute!

Ohhhhh!

I was guessing those were the two mystery items. 🤭

I do too!! I have another one from Panda Express in my car cup holder and one in my wallet. They’re little gems!

Oh my goodness! Oldspeak is so cool. Ross and I have been meaning to go for ages. We joined my brother and his girlfriend for trivia.

Two gals who work at the used bookstore were on another team. We had fun saying, “Hi!”.

We won trivia!! We weren’t necessarily expecting that, but it was exciting!🤓

Blueberry Danish Baking!

Entry 2- The blueberry compote is made! It should cool by the time we get home from trivia tonight. Then, into the fridge it goes, ready for tomorrow!

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#baking #danishes

Historically, I do not enjoy audiobooks read by actors because it sounds to me like they’re reading a screenplay in their head. Maura Tierney is wonderful, but her narration isn’t great.

I was about to put this book away until I saw this last descriptive paragraph about Little Women.

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This delicious meal comes together in about 45 minutes and it’s sooooooo tasty!

Blueberry Danish Baking!

Entry 1- I’m glad I took a peek at my notes for the danishes I plan to make tomorrow. One note I wrote instructs me to make the compote the night before! Phew!

I’m adding a few basil leaves to the compote. I love this addition for fruity desserts!

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#baking #danishes

Obsessed.

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Brrr.

I finally wrote out the recipe so I don’t have to watch the video every time I make this meal. 🤭

I love when my nails and my outfit match my books!!

#BookSky

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That Viral Baked Feta Pasta Thing (Is Really Good, Actually) | Kenji's Cooking Show YouTube video by J. Kenji López-Alt

Dinner tonight will be delicious. I haven’t made this for a while and I love how quickly it comes together. I’m adding fresh spinach to the finished dish, hoping a little wilt will happen and make it extra yummy.

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Do you have Del Taco???? It’s 8 times better and super tasty if you want a quick yummy meal.

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(I can’t help myself)

These are so cute!!!! Hehehe.