Make your best friend your life partner.
And if you have multiple best friends, same assignment.
Make your best friend your life partner.
And if you have multiple best friends, same assignment.
My morning routine now involves getting a good cry in.
Me: Today is hard. Iβm just following my checklist of get out of bed, make the bed, drink water.
My friend: Girl, same.
If youβre thinking about saying something mean, reconsider.
I hope whatever youβre doing right now, wherever you are, that youβre grateful for the breath you breathe and that there are people in your life that youβre grateful to have by your side.
If you're looking for advice consider...
Skeptics will give you skepticism.
Cynics will give you cynicism.
People with lived-experience, will share their experience.
But only taking action will give you wisdom.
The thing that's missing is love.
Monogamous and non monogamous relationships can all be unhealthy.
Not because of the structure, but because of the behavior of the people in them.
Trying to fix things by changing the structure before looking at behavior, is like putting a bandaid on a bullet wound.
Just heard an ad that said βOnly in America can you trample someone for a good deal the day after you spent time being thankful for what you already have.β And I think thatβs the most honest ad Iβve ever seen.
Keep going.
No one has anything figured out.
Thereβs just people who try to figure it out first before they take action, and people who take action and figure it out as they go.
Itβs the little stuff that really matters.
Research shows that in relationships, itβs not the big things make or break the relationship. Itβs the little moments; smiling when they walk in, walking past and giving a squeeze, the small compliments.
Whatβs one small connecting thing you can do today?
Healthy relationships happen when you can trust yourself enough to listen to your gut.
βI bear the wounds of all the battles I avoided.β - Fernando Pessoa
Love this π₯°
What does polyamory mean to you? How did you know you were polyam?
Tell me in the comments.
Happy Polyamory Day
Hereβs to love, and all the ways it shows up.
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βLove is abundant, right? So why are we taught we can only love one person?β
βPolyamory for me is about more than who I love, itβs about being able to experience connection in ways you canβt with just one person.β
βIβm polyamorous because it just makes more sense to me.β
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For polyamory day, most common things I hear polyamorous people say about being polyamorous:
βIβve just always felt like I had the desire and want to love multiple people.β
βReserving my love for just one person has never made sense to me. It feels like Iβm cutting off parts of who I am.β
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If youβre new to polyamory or non monogamy.
Actuallyβ¦even if youβre not new this is a good idea.
Start with how you feel and what feels true for you and get curious about that instead of trying to find a label to fit into.
Otherwise youβre stuck βfiguring it outβ instead of discovering what works.
Youβve heard it before but it bears repeating:
You can only meet people where they are at.
May we all have friends that forgive us when we mess up.
May we all have friends that can have hard conversations that help us grow.
May we all have friends that celebrate the shit out of us and what we are up to.
May we all have friends that can give us honest feedback.
The moment you have decided you know something, is the moment you stop learning and start becoming arrogant.
The moment you become arrogant you become judgmental.
The moment you become judgmental you slowly stop seeing the otherβs humanity.
Stay open to knew information. Stay open to being wrong.
I create because I create.
I love because I love.
I live because I live.
Iβm joyful because Iβm joyful.
Iβm sad because Iβm sad.
Iβm satisfied because Iβm satisfied.
Iβm mad because Iβm mad.
Iβm free because Iβm free.
I exist because I exist.
Remember that whatever you admire in others, others admire in you.
You canβt get into Heaven if you go around arresting innocent people and pardoning guilty ones.
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What would make everything easier or unnecessary?
Stop fearing one another and start loving one another.
Itβs official: AIPAC is trying to buy my election to keep me out of Congress.
Apparently, Iβm a βdangerous detractorβ... by believing Palestinians (like myself and my family) deserve basic human rights.
But weβre not going to let AIPAC win.
Beautiful day to water the water in Seattle. Can anyone explain this?
Relationship tip of the day:
Look at how people treat others because they will treat you that way eventually.
If they blame others, they will eventually blame you.
If they gossip about others, they will gossip about you.
Paying attention to peopleβs behavior is the best way to get to know them.