Cozy Cat Cafe

How The "Broken Picker" Hurt Single Women Setting up a generation for self-blame.

Free and interesting read:
1982.substack.com/p/how-the-br... ☕️💜

You don't attract the wrong men. Your "picker" was never broken. We're just part of a system that's been blaming women and absolving men since they figured out that was an option.

Imagine blaming someone for not picking the winning lottery ticket. ☕️💜

The hemophilia hiker: Yeah but those of you who are not mothers seek to control your men like children. And yes you better damn we’ll abandon that identity when a child is born as it has been changed, your identity lies in the child now Dr. Eleanor Hayes: I’m a mother of 5, my identity is still my identity and I live in a happy marriage… The hemophiliac hiker: Also to add. The word patient and client are both humiliating words, so you are actually causing more harm than good Those children are your future. Not your career

TW: the opinion of a man. Please be aware that perfectly average looking men are capable of harboring the abhorrent opinion that you cease to be a person when you become a wife and mother. ☕️💜

I have never met a woman who regretted leaving at the first sign of disrespect. ☕️💜

Normalize sending screenshots of men’s rape comments to their family and employer.

Ask me anything about 4B. ☕️💜

Nothing angers a misogynistic man like meeting a non-misogynistic man. ☕️💜

Sometimes I agree with men just so they will leave women alone. If women initiating divorce is so awful, why do they keep marrying us? If child support is so bad, why not get a vasectomy? ☕️💜

It goes like this.

Man on the internet: Men are struggling.

Women on the internet: Go seek the resources available to all of us.

Man on the internet: OMG that is so dismissive!

Women on the internet: 🤷‍♀️

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Keneticforge says: This is a very obvious post that women don’t care about men and know that our number 1 issue is: -Our mental health, and if we are struggling, we know no one cares enough to ask, help, or care CcC: Women learned to care about their own mental health. Men need to too. We can't make you take care of yourselves.

Men need to learn to take care of themselves. The reason they can't do this now is because women are constantly coddling and handholding them through life. They believe men's mental health crisis is because women don't care enough. Women care more about this than the men themselves. ☕️💜

Just spent 2 hours arguing with a man that alimony is not a big issue. I asked him what harm women cause by thinking it is a small issue, he said the harm was that it wouldn't be "properly addressed." Not that men would die, or be abused, just that the issue would not be properly addressed. ☕️💜

Fair enough. This entirely possible. I'm deleting it for possible misinformation. I'm telling you so that you know why it has disappeared. ☕️💜

The oppressor never has to prepare for a fight when he has convinced the oppressed that fighting is pointless. ☕️💜

It upsets me when women say that if they stop having babies or sex, the men will just force them to anyway, so it's not worth trying. It's always worth trying. If you're doing either of those things because you are worried they will make you do it anyway, it was never consensual to begin with. ☕️💜

Starbath.official says: A child didnt get to live and the mother kept quiet about it. And you celebrated. That’s the full context you provided. Maybe there’s way more than we know but that’s what you shared. With us. And the whole of threads. Hmm. CCC says: Damn right we celebrate it. And we'll celebrate harder to drown out naysayers like you. No woman should have a child she doesn't want to, no matter how that fetus was conceived. I know its SUPER hard for you to grasp, but I'm saying this for the people reading drivel like yours and taking it to heart. I don't care how that fetus was made. If you don't want it, you don't have to keep it.

A not so cozy thread, but an important one. I am unapologetically prochoice. No matter how that fetus was conceived, a woman has a right to end her pregnancy. Prolifers can wait at the moon all night. I do not care. ☕️💜

My journalism major says no. We don't not "win" by out gunning Fox News. FOX News needs to be obliterated as an organization. Liberal media is not limited to news stations and there have been entertaining liberal news-adjacent shows for ages now.

Top image of an average looking cartoon man captioned: Straight men: we don't like when women [300 page list of what they don't like in women] Bottom image if a beautiful crying woman with a blond afro and hearts floating around her. Sapphics: I like when women breathe, I love when women exist, I love women living, women are my favorite thing in the world.

Words cannot describe my heart break for straight women who believe the man at the top of this image is "attracted" to women. ☕️💜

I do believe women are often better leaders than men, but I also believe this is because women are raised in a way that fosters leadership skills that men often don't consider, and don't hone because they are "natural." ☕️💜

I know what this is about but feel the need to ramble. I write fiction in my spare time and one of my favorite storylines is a woman becoming powerful enough to overthrow patriarchy. The trouble is that my smart FMC's realize that most of the women they are freeing, don't want freedom, and give up.

Thou shalt arrest the damn president.

Gentle reminder to the women who want children: set your own goals and your own timelines.

Just read a tragic story of a woman whose long term partner admitted to "waiting out" her fertile years.

We never imagine people we love to be so cruel. Put your needs first. ☕️💜

Tw: SA

My pet peeve is hearing people say we need to teach boys not to rape. Boys know how not to rape and do it anyway.

While we could teach consent better, the fact that men lie and have been lying for thousands of years to cover their rapes is all the proof I need that they know it's wrong. ☕️💜

Men are not "natural leaders." Leadership is a skill and requires other skills such as emotional intelligence, observation, and empathy. An individual may display signs of good leadership qualities as a child. This has nothing to do with their gender. ☕️💜

The woman who was forced to drop out of medical school to care for an unwanted pregnancy could have cured cancer. But no one cares about that. ☕️💜

Women who hold firm to the idea that men and women are equally harmful to one another rather than looking at the facts, statistics and data that all say otherwise are male-centered. They are some of the most dangerous women to rely on because they believe they are being "fair."

Whenever men complain about single mothers and paternity fraud, it never fails to dawn on me that both problems could be solved by just not having children.

I know some women want to have children regardless of men's behavior, but men who complain of these things don't deserve children. ☕️💜

"Is it wrong when women do it?"

No one ever said it wasn't.

Not every man who agrees with you on feminism is good. But you will never find a good man arguing against feminism. ☕️💜

Remember, if a man's response to your valid complaint about the behavior of men in general with: You have terrible taste in men.

He is a terrible man who wants a taste of you. ☕️💜

A man defending predatory dating practices is a predator. A lion does not stop being a lion because it is being handfed by a zookeeper. ☕️💜