@emilytammam
IBCLC, mother of daughters, bereaved mother of Neve, interested in palliative care, birth and death, communication and connection, writing, painting, baking, running. Continuing Neve’s long standing tradition of ruffling feathers. www.emilytammam.co.uk
Must, must-read. Just drop everything, take an hour and read this, as I have. I wish these two parents would know that strangers like me who read their writings about their Martha will think long and hard about what happened, not forget and not be the same.
New writing, a short piece this time
emilytammam.substack.com/p/this-daugh...
Maternal Grief-Writing as Transformative Practice open.substack.com/pub/emilytam...
I am thrilled to share a new piece of writing. Sabina Dosani and I wrote about maternal grief-writing as a transformative practice. The whole experience has been incredible. Needless to say, I learnt a lot!
www.tandfonline.com/doi/metrics/...
Maternal Grief-Writing as Transformative Practice
Sabina Dosani & Emily Tammam
doi.org/10.1080/1448...
#RecurrentMiscarriage #ChildLoss
New writing and new painting
emilytammam.substack.com/p/freckles
New post
emilytammam.substack.com/p/a-hot-july...
This Wednesday, 30th July, the NCMD will launch a thematic report, about children with life-limiting conditions and palliative and end of life care needs. I was involved in the whole process, as a parent contributor and co-author. Including having my painting on the cover! See you on Wednesday!
'Data for the head,
Stories for the heart.'
The @ncmd.bsky.social is collecting stories from families whose child died. They will be used to illustrate what children & families found challenging & what was helpful, in a report recommending service improvements.
More info ⬇️ @emilytammam.bsky.social
@drkathrynmannix.bsky.social @doctoroxford.com @edfinch.bsky.social @helenanddouglas.bsky.social
Please share this widely. We are inviting families to share their stories with us. See more details here.
Join us!
We are so lucky that @emilytammam.bsky.social is one of our parent PPI members. I was never fortunate enough to meet Neve but am very grateful to Emily for her generous sharing of her writing and painting. Please read. #pedpc
@sbajwah.bsky.social @cqmd.bsky.social @unistrathclyde.bsky.social @paedpallcare.bsky.social @sarahwildman1.bsky.social @bethanpage21.bsky.social Please do tag others who I have linked to in my list, if I have missed them or can't find them.
@emilyharrop.bsky.social @drkathrynmannix.bsky.social @loroseducation.bsky.social @lucygobag.bsky.social @stephaniedubois.bsky.social @thenocturnists.bsky.social @annalisabarbieri.bsky.social @drrageshri.bsky.social @bedsidereading.bsky.social @lifeandpicu.bsky.social @drjrubenstein.bsky.social
Two years
Reflections on a toddler Neve and a list of writing, speaking, events and more, in Neve's honour, to mark two years since her death
emilytammam.substack.com/p/two-years-...
emilytammam.substack.com/p/a-list-to-...
Sneak preview for Tuesday 15/4 when Sabina Dosani joins me to talk about Ilse Pedlar’s poem “Visit to the Vets”
Bluebells
And a radiant little Neve
"I could feel traces of Neve all around me - on the grass and up the trees, in the warmth of the sunshine, echoed in the screams and the squawks of the peacocks."
Continue reading emilytammam.substack.com/p/bluebells
As elements of the brain fog of grief and my numbness start to dissipate, it is changing how I write. Wisdom from one of Neve's doctors helped me through the early months and years. Now I feel a pull towards a bit more structure and focus, in my writing.
I talk a fair bit about the expectation that archaeologists will work for free. Even when we do get paid for appearing at events the reality can be grim. In this thread, I'm going to outline financial issues at play in giving a public lecture using a real world example...
Bravo @libbysallnow.bsky.social
Libby Sallnow: the gentle disruptor - The Lancet www.thelancet.com/journals/lan...
Painting Neve reading
Musings on reading and painting, on World Book Day
emilytammam.substack.com/p/painting-n...
Red-haired teenaged woman, in dungarees and tightly patterned shirt, wearing cap and blue sneakers, sits on stool, holding basket of fresh-baked bread, as she look off to the right
Here's Mark Draisey’s oil portrait ‘Kitty, the Teenage Baker’, a prize-winner in the BP Portrait Award 2020 markdraisey.com/portraits
Painting of young girl's face, looking forward
Painting of crocus and snowdrop flowers.
A new piece of writing from me today
emilytammam.substack.com/p/spring-flo...
Young girl with hair in a bun on head and with NG tube, painted.
Grief without tears
A funeral
New piece of writing on substack. To read... emilytammam.substack.com/p/grief-with...
Painting of a toddler with her head down
New paintings of Neve, to accompany emilytammam.substack.com/p/frozen-in-...
Painting of a little child with her head down
“Neve would love this, wouldn’t she?”
My thoughts exactly, spoken aloud by my sister. We could both envisage her, bursting with joy and vitality, her cheeks rosy and warm.
emilytammam.substack.com/p/frozen-in-...
palliative care training has revolutionized how I communicate with families, how I deliver difficult news, how I assess family’s goals of care to guide/align management, how I doctor
don’t need fellowship level training to practice primary pall care; lots of options to enhance skill set
