Ryan Daigler

Narcissists always have a scapegoat

It brings up shame they try desperately to avoid.
Instead of self-reflecting, they project, blame, or smear the honest person to undermine their credibility.

Covert narcissists feel incredibly threatened by honest people with strong intuitive insight and and unwavering commitment to honesty.
Being around someone who "sees" them — not the mask, but the real, insecure, manipulative self beneath — is intolerable to a covert narcissist.

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Intuitive truth tellers are the biggest threat to covert and malignant #narcissists.
Narcissists instinctively attack these people, aiming to smear their reputation in order to protect the false reality the narcissists depend on.

A #narcissist craves obedience and control, but they don’t actually respect those who give it to them. In their mind, if someone submits to them, it just confirms their own superiority and the other person’s inferiority. They see obedience as a sign of weakness, not loyalty or worthiness.
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The malignant narcissist will tell you they’re trying to help you while they actively do things to make things harder for you.

Actions speak loudest.

Malignant narcissist vilify their victims to cover up the fact that they were actually the ones abusing the sh*t out of them the entire time

projecting their own manipulative nature onto them, often accusing them of “virtue signaling” or “being manipulative”. This allows them to discredit goodness, maintain control, and distort reality to avoid confronting their own emptiness.

Narcissists feel deep contempt for genuinely good people and good-will because true kindness exposes their own lack of humanity. This resentment causes them to want to discredit genuinely good intentions and people,
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#Narcissists work hard to keep a pristine public image so they can get away with being abusive in private

Hey Lenore! ✌️ glad to see you

Ultimately, a narcissist’s "respect" is just a reflection of power dynamics, not genuine admiration or appreciation. No matter what you do—whether you obey or resist—you can never truly earn their real respect, because they don’t see others as equals in the first place.

At the same time, if someone resists them, they may develop a grudging respect—but not in a healthy way. They might view that person as a challenge, an obstacle, or even a rival. Instead of respecting them as an equal, they’ll often seek to break them down, manipulate them, or regain control.
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A #narcissist craves obedience and control, but they don’t actually respect those who give it to them. In their mind, if someone submits to them, it just confirms their own superiority and the other person’s inferiority. They see obedience as a sign of weakness, not loyalty or worthiness.
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Narcissist always need a scapegoat to blame their problems on. And they will often use others’ accomplishments to take credit for

That makes sense. Just beginning to show independence so they want to control that. Such disgusting behavior. I wouldn’t stand for that either

that only serves to make the victim look “crazy“ because the rest of society really isn’t prepared to understand that there are people like this all around us doing this to their own children and the people they are friends with are doing this to their own siblings

And this is when narcissism becomes a malignant evil conspiracy of terror for one (or sometimes more) family members.It literally feels like a nuclear satanic cult complete with a ritual human sacrifice.
And if you express such fear or concern that “my family is trying to kill me“ …cont

The malignant narcissist family members are so terrified of allowing their own inner dysfunction to be made public that they will sacrifice one of their emotionally functional children or siblings to bury that secret. This is the scapegoat.
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They need a justification for their hatred that keeps their fragile self-image intact while also manipulating others into siding with them.

It’s not you, it’s them.

So instead, they manufacture a narrative that paints you as the problem.
They’ll twist reality to make you seem like the abuser, manipulator, or other negative qualities they know people will easily accept without looking deeper.
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When narcissists see someone with qualities they lack—like empathy, authenticity, and inner happiness —they experience intense resentment. But admitting to themselves or others that they hate you for being a good person would expose their own inadequacy.
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I wonder how many Albert Einstein‘s and Mary Curie‘s the world will never be aware of because their lives were shattered by envious malignant narcissist parents…

The narcissist wants to define you. To make you into someone you’re not. To erase you.

Please don’t give them the satisfaction

Thank you! 💛

Yes 💪🏼

This calculated behavior aims to make the victim appear as if they are overreacting or unstable to those observing the situation.
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#Narcissistic abusers often torment their victims behind closed doors while presenting a charming and innocent facade in public. They strategically provoke their victims, subtly pushing them to the brink when others are present, causing the victim to react visibly.
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I hope you find some joy. I know it’s hard.