Dr. Eileen Borris

🔵 Finding freedom beyond the victim story.
Forgiveness invites us to release the identity that keeps us trapped in the past and step into a larger story.

🔵 From revenge fantasies to healing.
Letting go of anger doesn’t mean denying the pain — it means choosing a future beyond it.

🔵 Gratitude as a turning point.
Focusing on what remained alive in his life helped Lyndon move from helplessness to agency.

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🔵 When being “right” becomes a prison.
Holding onto resentment can feel justified, but as Lyndon learned, it often traps us in a story that keeps us powerless.

Lyndon’s journey reminds us that forgiveness is rarely a single moment. It is a gradual opening of the heart—one that can transform suffering into humility, gratitude and a deeper compassion for ourselves and others.

From Revenge Fantasies to Forgiveness: Letting Go of Anger After 9/11 A Message to You We often struggle with forgiveness, but for those who do get to the other side, their lives become far better. This month I had the good fortune to interview Lyndon Harris, a former E...

Forgiveness sounds admirable—until the pain is personal. This month I spoke with Lyndon Harris, a former Episcopal priest who served after 9/11, supporting first responders and grieving families. But the trauma and anger that followed nearly destroyed his life.

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We have a fresh line-up of interviews with more forgiveness leaders and forgiveness stories, as well as normal people struggling to forgive. For the first time ever, Fred and I will be offering forgiveness coaching on the podcast.

Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects and the author of the bestselling books, “Forgive for Good” and “Forgive for Love,” Fred is a true expert on forgiving spouses, parents, children, friends, co-workers, bosses — and even ourselves.

Welcome to Season 2! Voices of Peace: Personal Forgiveness YouTube video by Political Forgiveness

I’m thrilled to announce we’re just days away from the season 2 kick-off of my podcast! To reflect a new focus on forgiveness in our daily lives, the title is now “Voices of Peace: Personal Forgiveness,” and I’m delighted to have Dr. Fred Luskin as my co-host.

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There’s so much more going on than meets the eye, and it’s a reminder to be sensitive to the consciousness of everything around us. I’m beginning to wonder, when we have those spiritual moments — those moments of grace through forgiveness — where is that really coming from?

I’m in the middle of reading Michael Pollan’s new book, “A World Appears: A Journey into Consciousness.” Mulling over the consciousness of plants is fascinating; they even give off certain chemicals to match their experience.

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I’m looking forward to bringing together such a wonderful group and meeting everyone next week!

This week I've been very excited to talk with so many people who are joining the Circle of Forgiveness. We have people representing several different continents and different faiths with wonderful insights into forgiveness due to their own personal stories and experiences.

The original Feminenza recording was wide ranging, and explores the vital role forgiveness plays in our personal healing and features a rich dialogue with participants from Kenya, Kosovo, Israel, and across Europe. Listen to the entire conversation now!
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FEMINENZA INTERNATIONAL
Feminenza International is a global non-profit organization focused on women's development, trauma healing, and education in forgiveness co-founded by Mary Noble, who has been a guest of mine in previous episodes.

I’m honored to share excerpts from my conversation with Mary Noble of Feminenza and participants of the Erasmus+ project “A Resilient Life,” where I answer their questions about all the ways forgiveness can release emotional burdens and lead to healing, hope, resilience, and freedom.

The participants in this conversation did not hold back. Through their tough and insightful questions we had a rich dialogue about the deep emotional processing involved in forgiving.

I want to forgive, but don’t know where to start. YouTube video by Political Forgiveness

When is anger appropriate? How does humility play a part in forgiveness? What about those who cling to revenge? Is there an optimal time for forgiveness? How do I deal with guilt? When do I need to set a healthy boundary? How do we heal trauma?

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🔵 Lifted by a benevolent force
As we struggle with our own difficulties in being able to forgive, we also open ourselves up to a benevolent force which is far more powerful than we could ever be. This creative force is sometimes experienced as grace.

🔵 The power in small steps
Even taking a very small step begins to open our hearts and light a spark of love within us that touches a deeper love: that of our humanity.

🔵 Revenge or grace?
Even in today’s world, where we hear so much talk about revenge and retribution, some people manage to forgive with amazing grace.

Are you ready to embark on a journey which may be difficult at times but which can give you something that is a most precious gift: love itself.

🔵 Forgiveness as a practice
To learn to love deeply requires forgiveness to become a practice. Most people think of forgiveness as a one-time event.

Forgiveness: The Highest Form of Love February is a month people are thinking about love. There are all types of love — from the love of your pet to a best friend to the romantic love towards your significant other. But the highest for…

Forgiveness teaches us about unconditional love. It is not only loving those who are easy to love and who are close to us, but it allows us to love those who are opposite from us and hold views different from us — possibly even those who have done great harm to us.

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This just speaks to the difficulty of forgiveness, even for those of us who are very involved with forgiveness. And yet, it’s so it to make it the place we prioritize more often.

I’m so excited to share Lyndon’s story with you next month, as we launch season 2 focusing on personal forgiveness!

Fred Luskin and I just finished a wonderful interview with Lyndon Harris, our first guest for season 2 of the podcast. What touched me most is that Lyndon was a minister—and yet never even considered forgiveness until he hit rock bottom.

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We’re planning our first Zoom gathering on March 6. If you feel drawn to be part of this Circle, I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment or send me a DM.

In divided times, choosing forgiveness is an act of quiet courage.

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I’ve reached out to a number of colleagues and friends, old and new, and the response has been deeply encouraging. The Circle of Forgiveness is already taking shape as a remarkable, global community of people committed to societal healing.

In a time when empathy can feel in short supply, I’ve felt called to gather those who are interested in—or actively practicing—forgiveness. My hope is simple: that we support one another as we continue this work in a climate that often pulls toward division rather than understanding.

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Don’t miss the entire episode here: youtu.be/K2iVi5YU5HU

Mary Noble is the co-founder and CEO of Feminenza, a nonprofit organization. She creates and leads training programs in forgiveness.

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She Forgave a Gang Member YouTube video by Political Forgiveness

Is anyone beyond forgiveness? In this moving clip Mary Noble explains how she worked with a former Muslim gang member wrestling with the weight of his past actions. This is a story about the power of presence, perception, and radical empathy.

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