@lovingmeuk
Qualified, confidential support, refuge and by and for service for trans & non-binary people experiencing domestic abuse in England (18+) 💜 https://linktr.ee/lovingme_uk?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=d3e075e8-f26e-4b63-91c1-2ac3f94f3379
Loving me is the UK’s fist domestic abuse refuge run by & for trans people. Their work is lifesaving – not just to support survivors, but to highlight the specific issues that trans survivors experience.
Unfortunately, we know first hand that the charging and conviction rates of male abusers are shockingly low. Predatory cisgender men absolutely do not need to take on the persona of a trans woman to commit abuse
Survivors often have a history of experiencing racism before coming out as trans, and may already feel alienated from services because of that. It’s vital survivors feel understood to address common barriers to support
You can feel caught in two intersecting moral panics, one framing you as threatening and dangerous because you’re perceived as a migrant, another framing you as a threat because you’re trans. As a trans person, you can feel hyper-visible, but if you’re a person of colour, the scrutiny & risk can feel even greater” – Melissa, Loving Me
Often survivors can flee only with what they can carry, with clothes that don’t it their identity and must start from scratch with healthcare Because waiting lists for NHS gender affirming care are years & years long many have no other choice but to pay privately, which is extremely expensive.
Too often trans survivors are misgendered or deadnamed when reaching out for support, and this can lead to survivors disengaging with services.
“Who we are is our core identity, it’s not an affectation, it’s not a frivolous preference, it’s who we are as people” – Melissa, Loving Me
trans inclusion looks like...
Thank you to our colleagues at Refuge
for giving us the opportunity to discuss issues facing trans & non-binary survivors of domestic abuse.
open.spotify.com/episode/3FFU...
We had a great time hearing about the work undertaken by @respectuk.bsky.social The Drive Partnership at their 10 year anniversary in Westminster.
It was lovely meeting host @joshbabarinde.bsky.social nde MP, a great advocate and ally for trans/ nb survivors of domestic abuse.
There’s only 3 days left until these positions are closed for applications!
Domestic Abuse Support Worker (Frontline)
Domestic Abuse Young People’s Support Worker
Social Work Degree Apprenticeship (BA Social Work - UCLan)
Time to Shine Leadership Role (Rank Foundation Programme)
Find the full job descriptions and application at : emilydavisoncentre.com/work-for-the...
We’re hiring We are expanding our team and are currently recruiting for four exciting roles within Loving Me Applications are particularly welcomed from people who identify as transgender, non binary or gender diverse Closing date; Monday 26 January 2026 5pm
We’re recruiting! 🏳️⚧️
In the new year we have four new exciting opportunities to join our team and support transgender people experiencing abuse.
Interviews : 2nd, 3rd and 4th February 2026
Last week our Chief Operating Officer commented on the exclusion of trans girls from GirlGuiding.
www.lbc.co.uk/article/tran...
Thank you to Skulls and Sheets, all the artists and bidders who contributed to such a wonderful donation!
Pansexual Pride Day 08th December
Happy Pansexual and Panromantic Pride Day
Familial Abuse It shouldn’t have to be ‘just the way it is’ for trans people
There may be an expectation to fit gender roles and presentations not aligned with your identity Your family might force you into a marriage or relationship against your wishes Family may knowingly and consistently misgender and deadname you
Your family may dictate who you speak to about your transition and make choices about how you present in front of others Your family might police you in the home and outside, controlling where you go and who you see Your family may use slurs and derogatory language to refer to you and your gender
As trans people our tolerance for mistreatment can be higher due to our oppression and the external messages we receive. We have compiled some behaviours that may indicate familial abuse. If you’re living with family and it feels unsafe, call 07902 478958 or make a referral on our website.
Check out our article in @bigissue.com Melissa our COO discusses the effect of the EHRC guidance on trans da survivors
We’re grateful to be part of another wonderful Mari lwyd charity raffle this year. Do check out their art and donate to all the wonderful services if you can ❤️
Don’t advise what they say and do - It could endanger them Do signpost them to appropriate domestic abuse services (such as ours) Do keep their information and experience confidential Do listen without judgement respecting their wishes and needs
Our community is small and have limited support networks. If you know a trans+ person who is a victim of abuse your presence is valuable. Make sure to listen to their experience but don’t suggest what they do or say. It could endanger them. Make sure to signpost them to a DA service
Today we’re proud that our founder spoke with the Queen to discuss the importance of by-and-for services - Pictured is our founder stood in front of the Queen Camilla
Today we’re proud that our founder spoke with the Queen to discuss the importance of by-and-for services
Moss from Loving Me was delighted to be able to speak at this week’s Trans and Non binary inclusion event for practitioners working with survivors of sexual violence. This regular and very well attended event is hosted by the wonderful SARSAS
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Healthwatch want to hear from trans and non-binary people about their experiences with their GP. This is an important research project and the data will help us to highlight the issues impacting trans people.
You can complete the survey at: https://buff.ly/4hVqzme
#Trans #Transgender #Nonbinary
Thanks for the feedback, it’s something I’ve been doing on our other socials but I need to pick it up on here too (:
While we believe by and for services like ours are a powerful tool in supporting marginalised communities, it’s important that all organisations make an effort!
🏳️⚧️🏠 Trans Awareness 🏠🏳️⚧️
Today we’d like to draw awareness to domestic abuse refuges and the difficulty our community faces when attempting to be housed in safe accommodation free from abuse