Kamela H is trying, okay

What is attunement? A supposedly natural way of relating that is actually learned

"...its opposite, misattunement, which trauma-informed leftists use to describe a moment of disagreement or strife in their relationships. (It’s me, I’m the #trauma-informed leftist. We don’t have arguments anymore, only misattunements.)"
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Old art, new eyes: Nosferatu Edition Or, why on earth did they remake this movie

Thanks, I thought so. I didn't get nearly as mad about this one, but I thought you might enjoy my writing about the recent Nosferatu reboot anyway. Thought of it because I mention my reaction to 300 in it! writeitout.substack.com/p/old-art-ne...

300. I stood up and screamed "what the FUCK?!" in the theatre as the credits rolled.

One of the worst things about the internet is that it teaches us to see every aspect of the human condition as stereotypical. Our most fundamental battles and tribulations as humans were once honored in great literature; now we’re exposed to millions of snide jesters who turn shared rites of passage into disposable punchlines.

This line from Ask Polly hit me in the gut today, because it's exactly what has made writing so hard for me for most of my adult life. #writing

I've not been here lately, because I've been experimenting with not being much of anywhere online. It's doing good things for me. I'm going to return here though, and see if I can curate my time here around my writing concerns and stay out of the news cycle part. (It's tough.)

New Year, new thoughts about platforms Hello, and happy new year I suppose, though I for one am trying not to put much stock in the Gregorian calendar right now.

My latest from Write It Out, where I'm plotting new platforms for new purposes. writeitout.substack.com/p/new-year-n...

A View To a Chill

JAMES MERRILL CHRISTMAS TREE From loes torn hamin Had been fed, looked after, kept still, Meant, I knew— of course I knew - That it would be only a matter of weeks, That there was nothing more to do. Warmly they took me in, made much of me, The point from the start was to keep my spirits up. I could assent to that. For honestly, It did help to be wound in jewels, to send Their colors flashing forth from vents in the deep Fragrant sables that cloaked me head to foot. Over me then they wove a spell of shining — Purple and silver chains, eavesdripping tinsel, Amulets, milagros: software of silver, A heart, a little girl, a Model T Two staring eyes. Then angels, trumpets, BUD and BEA (The children's names) in clownlike capitals, Somewhere a music box whose tiny song Played and replayed I ended before long By loving. And in shadow behind me, a primitive IV To keep the show going. Yes, yes, what lay ahead Was clear: the stripping, the cold street, my chemicals Plowed back into the Earth for lives to come — No doubt a blessing, a harvest, but one that doesn't bear, Now or ever, dwelling upon. To have grown so thin. Needles and bone. The little boy's hands meeting About my spine. The mother's voice: Holding up wonderfully! No dread. No bitterness. The end beginning. Today's Dusk room aglow For the last time With candlelight. Faces love-lit, Gifts underfoot. Still to be so poised, so Receptive. Still to recall, to praise.

James Merril’s poem “Christmas Tree,” written while he was dying of AIDS. 1995.

That was the joke Tim

An imagined Boston Pavilion post-sea-level-rise: "Years of unheard-of blizzards irreparably tore its stretched roof; the increasingly forceful Nor’Easters spiraled rainwater and sea spray into the ancient wiring, finally electrocuting the Dropkick Murphys into a permanent hiatus." #amwriting

Actually I realized I'm wrong and I turned 16 in November of 1990.

Oh well, whatever, nevermind.

all I'm saying is, there were a *lot* of truly great albums that came out that very year! That said, I think I like your answer best

*deep breath*

I turned 16 in 1991.

Feeling and Dealing (from Write It Out) | Kamela Hutzley Get more from Kamela Hutzley on Patreon

Haven't shared here in a while. Here's the Patreon version of last month's post about #attachment, and how I learned about it. www.patreon.com/posts/feelin...

Sandwich artist’s kiss

I might be crazy but I literally will not write down the most critically important piece of information if I don't like the kind of pen that's available

This is just killing me in the best way. Sound on (but not too loud)

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“In” these times. That’s what I get for bitching about grammar using my thumbs

I know it’s absolutely the least of our problems but something I really want to throttle people for Im These Times is liberals who insist on using the phrase “we the people” ungrammatically

Attachment theory and repair, at long last Part one: Trauma-Insta, Attachment theory vs "styles," and the four main types

Over three years after I published [another article], I’m getting to the followup posts I said I’d make at the bottom of it, where I promised “more about PTSD, #C-PTSD, #attachment styles and disorders… and more about untangling one’s own traumatic patterns.”

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The sneaky thing here is that A has France in it. But then French food has gotten everywhere and been improved by the mashups, so yeah, A is garbage

I love this both because it suggests theatre people aren’t civilians and because I needed a nicer way to say “die in a fire”

Okay but...how...why...um. All I'm saying is what is with Zohran being so SEXY while holding *checks notes* a bag of sour cream Herr's chips??

Slightly diminish a band:

Duke and the Minor Skirmish

(Beautiful phrasing, too. Thank you for it.)

After all these years I’m finally reading The English Patient, and I know just what you mean.

Perhaps Franklin D Rogenielt is what the Democrats need

Oh hello!

Yeah. I keep thinking, what to call this genre? I feel like “historical fantasy” is what you’re talking about. Is this more low fantasy? Which, fine. But it’s not hitting nearly as hard as, say, Bujold.

Btw, do we know each other IRL? I’ve been failing to figure that out since you followed me 😂