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Ah just that I want update when go from /future wife/ to /wife/ But, rhetorical, cause of course you will ❤️

sinophobia is freaking real, imo, and that's disturbing. Am with US in the power struggle and that may be by virtue of being raised under communist regime&aftermath in E Europe and the collective longing of adults around me: "The Americans will come for us" for the better half the century after WWII

I keep wild smoked salmon in small batches in the freezer, parmesan block on me even on roadtrips, canned anchovies, sardines, obvs don't go under a dozen eggs in the fridge

NO without buy-in from the other party/audience, and I actually feel strongly about it. And you have to be *really* skilled to get someone to laugh at that edge, I only have a couple of friends who can do it, and they build that setup over time

Cluster of opinions:sharp knives, stock on staple umami ingredients, sacred one meal a day together, and let talent thrive in the kitchen - both husband &daughter have surpassed me in skill since I got married and *I* take credit for enjoying their food😋

smuggle cheese across borders if you have to

Not particularly, my point is more about working it as a skill in and of itself (content mastery, rhetoric skills, audience gauge, storytelling) than the confidence.Which means even for written text, deliberately understanding design ideas, text+image storytelling etc
Confidence is not the main goal

a long game: content mastery is necessary but not sufficient, next is getting the epistemology of particular concepts right (e.g., how to learn fractions?), and importantly, true humility in the same cluster with high openness which keeps you in a state of wonder&honesty that kids connect well with

Really grokking the idea of respecting children like they are full human beings is still a big one where even close to me friends and family, though accepting on surface level, don't get my operationalizing it in actions

ah thanks❣️ I almost prompted u to reply feeling v insecure about this particular Strong Opinion😁My fav brother in law spent his young adult yrs in Germany, escaping from behind Iron Curtain: his adventure nothing short of fantastical. A family took him in is the big highlight, still loves Germany

Gm, is Rizz in the room with us? How does he look like?

ah, very much FOR. I mostly grew up equating it with freedom and seeking it hard, to the point of crossing rivers, oceans, borders to get it

No, Cortex, some things you never ask!

Ok, my gut feeling analysis rn: stupid politics, lack of people wide high-level ideals+optimism - all of Europe really - but the Germans more annoying for conscientiously, humbly going with the state

Individually loved every German friend I made, there

I am for *some* control: of types of apps, time of the day, mode of engagement, especially re: age appropriateness

V much against any hard involvement of the parent, especially as they grow up:I will never look in their phone,or set hard limits without their buy-in.Respecting their freedom upstream

100 followers milestone on here: reply to ask me Strong Opinion Held Loosely on <topic>

I will get into Discourse like there's no tomorrow in the blue sky

correct

what sleep

this will not get my buy-in if you don't update on status

yep, your reply makes me understand the crux of my opposing them /if not deliberately aiming at *doing well* as a skill in and of its own/

is that mere confidence is not the goal, imo, and eventually backfires even as a confidence build bc they never get the true high of getting through to audience

In time, I've come to believe that "making the world better via your children" works like just for anything else: <tending to your own garden, competently> is the most impactful, high agency way to see the change you want in the world

Tho I'm still selfishly driven by my love of my progeny, tbqh🤷‍♀️

some like it yes, but w/o content mastery+coaching *most* hate it and become even more apprehensive to the point they can't even speak when called on.Even those who go through and get comfortable, I posit don't get better at it; rather, learn it's ok to do a mediocre job of delivering to an audience

Partly, it's v clear to me, even from mine and husband's different feeling about it at the time, it's biological. All of a sudden at around 24, I wanted babies bad, and he didn't care about it - and it wasn't to make the world better, no lol. I just wanted HOLD BABY

Another object level take: someone on Twitter asked this a while back and I thought about an answer but never wrote it: How do parents justify decision to have children as a way to make the world better?

My short answer: I never did before I had them and early on. I was actually v selfish about it

this is so real: a few times a month I whisper congratulations to myself for having taken good notes

ah, nice! Also, I just pictured tiny Lukas kid doing this in front of class😁

yes! I personally love and thrive doing public speaking, I'm much more fun doing it than I am at parties🥲 but yes, it's content mastery and rhetoric training+talent that make a difference, and Latin might just be the perfect medium, you're right!

YES

Powerpoint presentations are the bottom hell of busy work, they just reinforce bad content mastery, social anxiety and, for educators and listeners, phasing out of responsibility and interest

I'd rather have kids learn Latin declensions by heart any day

Adults mostly suck at presentations &public speaking, too. Also I should hedge, say "without being coached" instead of "uncorrected"

Gonna be the change I want to be in the world: let's have some object level takes

Here's mine from today: Having kids do presentations in school is Bad bc most suck at it, waste huge amounts of time and hate it, bore the hell out of everyone, go on uncorrected for the rest of their schooling yrs

yep, I don't even cut into the general mental set %, although I've dipped into sleep hygiene trials just to experiment. My kids confirm this: I have one who is exactly like me, and one who is the opposite🤷‍♀️