Jessica

I wonder what cats think clothes are

Not sure whether there’s something to this or not but the general fuck uppery of the platform has me no longer thinking of it as software that behaves as intended or expected

😧☹️

Apparently I’ve joined the legion of the shadow banned on the bird site

Oh hell yeah, now I’m not “avoiding hard inner truths”, I’m “leaving some for other people to find”

It only occurred to me just now

It must mean something different up there

Wait so like all this time Justin Trudeau has been named Justin? Like he’s a Justin? Like… the other guys I know named Justin?

No he’s not.

girls belong on the computer

The way we’re talked to becomes our inner voice.

The way we’re looked at becomes our inner gaze.

Eagerly awaiting the moment in the struggle to claim ownership of bluesky where a brave hero drops his pants to pee on it

Yeah if I catch any sort of dangerous vibe then it’s clearly expressed boundary time, and I’ll report, block, show a friend, whatever feels right.

I’ve only had it happen a couple times. It doesn’t bother me all that much but I think it helps that I try to check with myself how much I care for them to be wrong about me. Like whatever image they’ve created that’s part me and not me might not have to be my concern

Hmm I suppose I’ll hang out here

Parasocial relationships are when someone gorges themselves on an experience of someone else in a way that’s disjoint from present time and space, separate from direct experience of the other as they presently exist.

The rhythms of stress, energy, and even loneliness that we experienced day-in and day-out during our formative years live on deeply embedded in our adult nervous systems, grounded in repetitive and consistent practice we didn’t choose to do.

What would we lose, really, if golf just went away? Like am I missing something here?

When I get really good at foam rolling then it’s really over for my problems

I want to learn every instrument’s part in the Succession theme

Whereas the actual people needing help need a little bit of this at one point and a bit of that at another, but instead they become the target market for a modality trying to convince them all they need is more EMDR, bodywork, breathwork, psychedelics, meditation, CBT, somatic experiencing, etc.

Another thought… a frustrating shadow around all the trauma + healing + therapy + spiritual stuff is that our capitalistic system distorts such that most modalities achieve spread and growth by pretending to be the end-all-be-all of “the answer” rather than just one way at the same thing.

But all that said, I straight up got a degree in this stuff 10 years before I started realizing how it actually applied to me, so I definitely know ways that sitting next to the material without engaging it directly can be part of a process.

And being able to sense and discern when that’s happening, rather than avoidance or overwhelm or externalizing, is just another part of the capacity that grows over time.

It doesn’t matter too much which specific tools help any given person stay present in and compassionate/curious toward their experience enough to actually experience it, just that they do whatever supports them in doing that.

The thing about the tools is that there’s not a single healthy practice in the world that can’t be used for really good-looking avoidance.

So I think people need to get a really solid feel for the energy of avoidance and notice it no matter how trauma-healing-adjacent the practice is

if you see this, drop a pic of you as a kid

bsky devs like

someone else decides which of your [ideas] are allowed to bang

Feels like people often say socialized when what they mean is domesticated

There’s nerding out on the feed and there’s nerding out about the feed and over here the latter is having a moment but I’m excited to see more new forms of the former