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Plumping up sofa cushions + slipknot = fun stress relief 😂💚

You get sent a client who is there to observe how you conduct sessions without knowing they're observing you. They stay for a few sessions & get expensed at the end of it for doing their report. And you then get sent their feedback.

I'm not sure how I would feel about it but it's got me thinking 😂

Random thought that came to me this morning as I was remembering working in retail/cafés -

What if counselling membership bodies did a mystery client scheme, similar to the mystery shoppers 😅

What is good enough? What is good enough? We explore this question and ways to challenge the negative thinking and core belief.

My new blog post explores what we consider good enough to be, how it can impact our life and self percetion, and how we can challenge the belief of "I'm not good enough"

www.emilyduffytherapy.co.uk/post/what-is...

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It makes sense why some people refer to, and feel, that their hairdressers/barbers are therapists! (Though please remember there is a difference, it may be therapeutic and supportive but this is not therapy - has to be said to clarify 😆)

It can be like shining a spotlight on yourself. It's actually something that some therapists do in self worth work to grt used to looking at yourself, confronting that inner critic, and to start to look at any neutral or positive elements you can notice.

But it can also feel quite confronting to sit infront of a mirror for an hour or so. It can highlight that inner critic around our appearances and how we feel.
"I'm too heavy"
"I'm not pretty enough"
"I wish my body works"

Alongside the talking that we do too.

photo of emily duffy looking at the camera. Emily is a white woman with long strawberry blonde straightened hair. she is wearing a grey waffle jumper.

Had my hair cut for the first time in over a year 🫣

Getting my hair cut always falls down my priorities, it can be hard to remember or have the energy with chronic illnesses and just life itself. I also just forget how long it's been as well as how good it feels after 😅

Image of short haired dog sat on someones lap, the dog is side eyeing the camera

Tell me your dog's clingy without telling me.....

Made me laugh as he's rested his head on my hand as I'm typing this 😂😂

Courses | Emily Duffy Therapy An overview of the courses that are on offer from Emily Duffy Therapy. There are courses and guides available around non-monogamy - exploring relationship dynamics and how to navigate those relationsh...

No relationship type is more superior than another! Abuse, cheating. Coercive behaviour, breakups, etc. can happen in any type of relationship.

If you'd like to know more about non-monogamy check out my blog, guide, or CPD course on my site - www.emilyduffytherapy.co.uk/courses

#therapy
#ENM #CNM

There is still research to suggest that clients are fearful of disclosing their non-monogamous relationships in therapy due to fear of judgement and stigma. As well as research suggesting therapists DO judge those in non-monogamous relationships and actually suggest they conform to monogamy 😒

Types of Polyamory Solo polyam - Keeping individuality whist in multiple relationships. Relationships are treated equitable. Parallel polyam Where meta's don't have a relationship with each other or even talk. Kitchen Table - Where a polycule is open to interracting and spending time all together e.g. sharing breakfast together round the kitchen table Garden Party - Where a polycule is open to spending some time together e.g. like a garden party Other terms: Hierarchy Where relationships are prioritised in different ways. E.g. a couple who is opening up may see each other as primary partners and then a other partner as secondary Meta A term for your partner's partner Polycule The mapping of your partners and metas. Like a molecule. Polysaturated When you are out of capacity and unable to gove any more time or energy into dating any more partners.

Relationship types.... Monogamy - An exclusive relationship between 2 people Monogamish - Where an exclusive dyad occasionally have a sexual relationship outside of their relationship e.g. threesome Open Relationship A dvad who are open to (mainly) ongoing sexual relationshins outside of their relationship Non-consensual non-monogamy - e.g. cheating- Where an individual has a relationship outside of exclusivity Non-monogamy: Polyamory Open to multiple relationships. This can take many forms such as solo, parallel, kitchen table, garden party, hierarchical, etc. Ambiamory Open to either monogamous or polyamorous relationships Swinging Sexual experiences with others outside of an exclusive relationship Relationship Anarchy - Having relationships based on the expectations and desires of the individuals involved rather than socieital norms

It's been 2 years since I released my CPD on working with non-monogamous clients 🥳

Non-monogamy is just as valid as monogamy 💚

Here are a couple of slides around different types of non-monogamous relationships and then a slightly deeper dive into terms related to polyamory specifically 🫶

Love this 💚👏

Green background with words like fear, worthless, sadness, grief, hopeless, anger, anxious in black text in varying sizes. In big partially transparent white text going accross all of this in a left to right direction are the words "fix me"

Therapy isn't here to "fix you" 💚 I'm sure so many of us are feeling a many number of these feelings and emotions on a daily basis with all thats going on in the world. It can feel like we're so connected via technology but feeling so disconnected as humanity. It can also seem like we don't have time, energy, or permission to sit with these difficult emotions anymore. Society wants us productive and doing, not feeling. And so it can lead us to think we're broken and need fixing when we experience these emotions. Therapy helps you explore them, why are you feeling them? Where have they come from? Are the relative to what's going on, or left over from past events, or both? Are they rational? What are they telling you? Etc. Therapy helps you feel them, what goes on for you when you feel X? Is it comfortable or uncomfortable? Do you have a physiological reaction? Or sensations? It let's you stay curious and move through it rather than resisting it thinking it's "wrong".

It let's you look at how you want to move forward from it, when you're ready to. It explores the core belief if you've been stuck with that emotion for so long ("I'm worthless" "I'm bitter") It reminds you that joy, happiness, curiosity, freedom, excitement, thrill, etc. Can exist alongside in parallel and that's okay and important too. It doesn't mean these uncomfortable emotions and feelings will disappear, that's just not possible, we're human, we feel! But we can learn how to navigate them and listen to them, especially when our world is full of such chaos, division, bigotry, fearmongering, disconnect, hurt, loss, abuse, and atrocities. ** this post is focusing on the uncomfortable but please remember there are spaces and glimmers out there to bring anyone of those more comforting emotions, connection, and good in the world too ** You don't need to be fixed 💚 #therapy #therapyprocess #staycurious #emilyduffytherapy #life

Feelings aren't failure, they're messages 💚

#feelings #therapy #emilyduffytherapy
#therapist #you'renotbroken

You've heard of girl math but what about chronic illness math?

Chronic illness math is trying to weigh up whether a plan/task/activity is worth doing. but unfortunately the numbers never weigh up so you can't truly know the outcome....

I really want to go to the cinema But I'm feeling a little run down If I go will it send me in a flare or will I be okay with symptom managment And will the flare last a day or a week or more? Maybe I should stay home and rest? But I've not done something for myself in a while and getting out the house can make me feel good.....

Do you experience this?

You've heard of girl math but what about chronic illness math?

You canrs expect therapists to help heal trauma and then not speak out against the systems that are causing collective trauma on a massive scale in real time

100% this

I am so excited to not watch Melania's movie that I'm not watching it right now and will be not watching it all weekend!

Chronic illness is waking up everyday already feeling exhausted 😪

The Importance of Intersectionality in Therapy In terms of how this fits into therapy, it's important to recognise that whilst parts of ourselves don't define us, they do have an impact and can be linked to create our individual experience of oppr...

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It's 2026, can doctors and medical professionals stop using "You're too young" as an excuse to not do tests!

No one is too young. Might it be rare in some cases, yes. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen though!!!

Migraine hangovers suck! So freaking tired.

It's unfair that chronic illnesses have consequences from just living life but this is why pacing (where possible) & compassionate self talk are important in order to manage what we can.

Gonna have a nap now. Hope your day is kind to you! 💚

I'm so excited to get this course finished but I'm also making sure it's as robust as possible! ✨️

I'm enjoying writing it at the moment and have completed the first 2.5 modules 🥳

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I'm not great a keep up with Bluesky cause I tend to write a lot 😅😅

My latest posts elsewhere is about email therapy and when it's suitable.

You can check out the lil "quiz" I made to see if it would work for you - www.emilyduffytherapy.co.uk/what-i-offer...

#therapy #emailtherapy #accessible

For me, the top 2 go hand in hand, you need the engagement and relationship for effective therapy. Then the approach can take shape. The approach can impact engagement as if it is too confronting or too passive a client can lose motivation! 💚

What do you think?

The "outcome" of therapy is reliant on many things, but from what I've read and from experience these three things have a big impact:
- Client engagement
- Therapeutic Relationship
- Therapy Approach

I want to be more intentional with my time. I've found I am sooooo passive becuase of brain fog and fatigue, but because of this I've not done any crafts or any hobbies I really enjoy!!

What word will you carry over for 2026? 💚

#newyear
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#emilyduffytherapy
#intention
#resolution
#life

A selfie on the left of the image of Emily Duffy wearing a black santa hat which jas "heavy xmas" stitched on the white banding. On the top right is an image of Emily with one of her dogs.looking up at her. And bottom right is another dog looking at the camera licking her lips.

Happy New Year's Eve all ✨️

Queue Psychostick - Happy Fucking New Year 🤘

I don't really do resolutions anymore, instead I quite like what I've seen others do of carrying over a word with me for next year.

So 2026 for me is going to be ꪱׁׅꪀׁׅtׁׅꫀׁׅܻꪀׁׅtׁׅꪱׁׅᨵׁׅꪀׁׅ.

Perfectionism in Society Looking at how perfectionism is engrained in western society and what we can do to challenge it

My latest blog post is out now 💚

Coincidentally, this has been in my drafts for over a year now, and I finally got round to doing it 😂

And just in time for anyone looking to make resolutions - you don't have to be perfect! You're human!

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Picture is a mash up of a "happy birthday banner", selfie of Emily a white woman, with ginger hair wearing a black tshirt, 2 dogs looking at the camera, and then a barn conversion with a hot tub

I turned 35 today!

It's been a hard year but I'm grateful for so much in my life.

I know this next year is going to have some pretty big difficulties but hoping there's many lighter moments for us all ✨️

For now I'm taking the week in my happy place w/my partner & woofs!

How're b'days for you? 💚