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Kai (he/they) πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ

@thegrumpyenby

queer | transmasc enby | bi | kinky | poly | AuDHD | CPTSD | EDS? | covid cautious | serial immigrant | serious AI hater | deeply unserious person tech lead at @distributeaid.org | freelance dev content πŸ‡¦πŸ‡Ή in Galicia πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ No soy expat. Soy immigrante.

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damn, I’m sorry :( vibrators stopped working for me, I outgrew the satisfyer suction ones, I finally bought the Gender X Body Kisses or whatever it’s called but you can’t toggle the vibe and vibration seems to kill my boner. Oddly, the massage gun is my failsafe but it’s just for release, no fun πŸ™„

11.03.2026 19:14 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

1 unsolicited advice + 1 question:

Advice: get a stroker/sleeve. My hands are pretty fucked up these days and it helps prevent cramping. As does pumping but a transmasc stroker does the trick.

Question: what toys do you use? I find my dick doesn’t like the toys my clit worked so well with.

11.03.2026 19:03 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0
An old photo of Monty, around 16 years old. He is wearing a blue shirt, has no facial hair, and has an undercut that is blond on top.

An old photo of Monty, around 16 years old. He is wearing a blue shirt, has no facial hair, and has an undercut that is blond on top.

A current photo of Monty. He has a long, full beard, a mullet, and is wearing a black graphic tee with a dragon on it, a thin silver chain, and octagonal silver glasses.

A current photo of Monty. He has a long, full beard, a mullet, and is wearing a black graphic tee with a dragon on it, a thin silver chain, and octagonal silver glasses.

2016 ➑️ 2026

I dunno what trans person needs to hear this, but give the HRT time.

12.02.2026 13:43 πŸ‘ 86 πŸ” 7 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I’m jealous. I’ve been on full-dose T for 3 years. I can only hope 🀞🏻

Also: 🀀

11.03.2026 18:57 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

relatable content. I’d blame T but I was like this when I was younger too lol long before I started transitioning

11.03.2026 18:53 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

One thing that has helped me keep up alt text is the Bluesky setting that MAKES ME ENTER ALT TEXT before I can post the image.

06.03.2026 16:08 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 1 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

*not meant to shame or as a call out, just for clarity*

✨DELICIOUS CREATURES✨
If I follow you and like your posts constantly, but you've noticed I never repost/quote post your content...it's almost certainly because there is no alt text. πŸ’‹πŸ–€

06.03.2026 15:22 πŸ‘ 50 πŸ” 13 πŸ’¬ 2 πŸ“Œ 1

doctor who is a show about a fruity gender fluid foreign war refugee arriving in england in a small unregistered vessel so I can only assume if starmer ever watched it he'd try to have everybody involved killed on the spot

11.03.2026 11:25 πŸ‘ 87 πŸ” 12 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

yeah with your backpacking frequency I can't see how that'd be an investment. for me it would just be part fancy, part foolishness πŸ˜… I do love my dehydrator though. a couple years ago I was lucky enough to nab a barely used 9-tray Excalibur for about 150 pounds.

11.03.2026 10:43 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

sorry, I only know gays

10.03.2026 23:53 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 1 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

omg do you have your own freeze dryer? drying freezer? I don't know the terminology, clearly, but I love gadgets like that πŸ˜…

11.03.2026 06:39 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

sorry, I only know gays

10.03.2026 23:53 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 1 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

karl marx failed to consider that im sleepy and im tired

10.03.2026 10:06 πŸ‘ 93 πŸ” 18 πŸ’¬ 8 πŸ“Œ 0

It is also very well established that non-binary youth have to pretend to be binary in order to access hormones in many clinics, so the studies on binary youth will for sure include non-binary youth pretending to be binary.

10.03.2026 09:17 πŸ‘ 306 πŸ” 35 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

Yesterday the NHS banned all under 18 prescriptions of HRT for trans young people.

This ban was justified by 10 new studies that largely stated NO EVIDENCE for under 18s HRT exists.

The study underpinning this played one particular trick.

Let's briefly look at how the NHS rigged the game 1/5

10.03.2026 09:04 πŸ‘ 851 πŸ” 400 πŸ’¬ 11 πŸ“Œ 40

As a serial white *immigrant* in Europe who keeps telling people that we’re not expats: those people are not immigrants; they're expats. Disgusting, capitalist, unempathetic expats who don’t give a shit about locals and are only wanting to feel rich.

10.03.2026 10:23 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

If they weren't pieces of subhuman shit, they'd be caring about other people & paying their taxes wouldn't they.

Bloody hell I wouldn't have abandoned my cats. You come for my fam, you come for me.

10.03.2026 10:09 πŸ‘ 22 πŸ” 5 πŸ’¬ 2 πŸ“Œ 0

this is the best take imho

10.03.2026 10:19 πŸ‘ 4 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Yeah, they're not immigrants. They're expats in every sense of the word. I feel sorry for the pets, but those people? Not a single ounce of pity for them. Also note how they are driven away by β€œcosts and travel restrictions”, and not actual danger to their lives.

10.03.2026 10:17 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

clearly!

09.03.2026 20:02 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

too meetings for Monday
too Monday for Monday
brain: fried

09.03.2026 18:01 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

look, I knew dogs could do that but kids? 😲 indeed wild

09.03.2026 17:53 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

I also play is it MCAS, as of yet undefined EDS, cPTSD, AuDHD or a combination? πŸ˜†

09.03.2026 16:15 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

If you have been blessed with a trans child;

1. Keep them away from the NHS
2. Try and move abroad if you can
3. Be prepared to fight transphobic staff at school
4. Find other sources of hormones/medication. If you can, get a car loan to pay for them.
5. Protect them from all governmental agencies.

09.03.2026 08:19 πŸ‘ 756 πŸ” 144 πŸ’¬ 11 πŸ“Œ 9

saying you "coded something with agentic AI" is like saying you made a cake "from scratch" but all you did was bung boxed cake mix in the oven with some milk in it

09.03.2026 12:59 πŸ‘ 4 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

'When the hype inevitably dies down, as it has done many times before, through AI summers and winters, you want to have skills. You want to have a degree that matters.'

09.03.2026 08:51 πŸ‘ 16 πŸ” 4 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I started out on 1/4 of 20mg twice a day, then switched to 1/2. the ones I still had from living in Germany were easily splittable but the ones I get here in Spain have a film coating that makes that almost impossible. I'm doing OK on the 10mg twice a day so feels silly to go up to 2x20mg just now

09.03.2026 09:56 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

that’s good to know. I’ll also check with my pharmacist if they have splittable tablets (the generics are coated here or sth) or 10mg ones.

09.03.2026 09:34 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0
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a man is standing in front of a sign that says this is audrey Alt: A scene from Little Shop of Horrors where Seymour (played by Rick Moranis) is standing in front of Audrey, humongous carnivorous plant, who is clamouring "Feed me, Seymour"

I don't see how tbh. I think it's likely I am just so chronically under-sleeping (and have been my entire life) that the moment my body gets a lick of more sleep it clamours for more.

09.03.2026 08:16 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

why do I always feel worse when I sleep more? I got a solid 7 hours last night and I feel kinda mid tbh

09.03.2026 07:48 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0