My loves. If it's your first time or you're feeling nervous/shy, that's absolutely OK and welcome. But I do recommend, if you can, to book longer to allow yourself time to relax into the experience. A chat/flirt over a drink or meal makes a WORLD of a difference. More connection = better sex always
Running, biking, rowing…things that involve repetitive movements…
A close up, black & white shot of Cedar’s muscled legs in black, buckled boots reflected in a mirror. Their tattoos are blurred
Unfortunately, I do love:
⋆endurance sports
⋆cross-sex hormones
⋆either side of dawn
⋆wearing a mask
⋆Tetris tournaments
⋆harsh noise & ambient field notes
⋆feedback in the moment
⋆psychedelics & sex
⋆privacy
⋆vulnerability
⋆reading on the train/in the car
⋆neuroplasticity
⋆cash meets
Sending tips & gifts while you build up the nerve to book is always so hot to me 💋
Asking over time what kind of support I needed. Grief takes it‘s time with you & sometimes you’re left struggling the most weeks/months after you’ve lost someone. Offers of help can be overwhelming to accept at the start but much appreciated with time
sometimes i feel like companionship was designed for my brain, it fits my sensibilities so well. the mix of structure + adventure, the freedom/autonomy to make my own schedule/decisions, the ability to care for ppl in such a tangible way. the space to connect deeeep past superficiality. i love it.
nooooo don’t just save my photos without sending a tip or a gift…you‘re so close to materially supporting/ appreciating this ass…
I’m no expert (okay, maybe I am)… but a good strategy? Develop a relationship with a provider.
Just as much as seeing someone is hot and fun, the attuned care, attention and vulnerability of a professional can literally restore your humanity… I’ve seen it happen…
Lost in the pussyfog or g.o.a.t.ed with the sauce?
(Hint: the answer is Yes)
Touring isn’t spontaneous magic.
Ads are paid.
- Deposits are refunded when plans change.
- Sometimes travel money is gone/lost.
- So when everyone waits for last-minute bookings… the trip simply doesn’t happen.
I’d gladly come up to see you & anyone else 🖤
Ruby stands in a white cutout bodysuit. She is barefoot, leaning up against a floor-to-ceiling glass door.
NYC march 27-29, pass it on <3
✨upscale incall in bk
✨limited availability
✨experiences prioritized (including that trip to your favorite bookstore..)
Providers: if you can, I highly encourage y’all to book another provider for yourself sometime. We carry a lot of emotional weight for our clients (which is not a bad thing!) and it helps so much to have someone else care for us in the same way
Therapists need therapists 🫶
(meant to say “maintain“ up there but got caught up in the passion of the sentiment)
Blurring out facial features & tattoos does successfully market you as a person who both values discretion & is confident in their beauty. I have found that the clients who understand that (and who are even attracted to that!) are pretty consistently people of character.
I kind of have a lot of tattoos and I blur them for privacy…so you can’t clock me on the street from my tattoos…
Really can’t underscore enough the pains many of us take to try to remain some semblance of privacy in this work because we are memorably, specifically good looking & lead lives in public
New tongue twister: rugby sport shorts
Love when the home art collection is massive 🥵
A black & white photo of Cedar posing in a mirror in a black thong, most of their face covered by their phone & their tattoos blurred for privacy. Their muscles ripple & they have one hand in their curls
My next few months of travel is listed 🗺️
Come get me or bring me to you 🖤
#oursky #datepittsburgh #dateLA #dateRVA
quiet parallel play until we get horny and then go right on back to quiet parallel play
Total loser behavior on their part! May your next date be all the more grateful & respectful of your time 🖤
a mirror selfie of mistrix salem in just a red thong. their arm is raised to show their hairy underarm. their face is visible from the lips down.
Philly this month, Montreal next month, Chicago in July. Really grateful that this work takes me all over the place!
Travel dates are in my newsletter. Want to rendezvous? Shoot me an email inquiry: salemthesadist@proton.me
#domina #dominatrix #kinkygfe #prodomme #datenyc #datechicago #oursky
I have any number of projects in the works but this season (and in my dreams!) I feel a strong pull to be a reader for @tacobellquarterly.org
My life is a 12 episode mini-series with lots of nudity and adult situations 💋
Being irresistible to women is my duty in this life & the next
Mirror self portrait of Cedar nude with their tongue out. Their eyes and tattoos are blurred for privacy. One curl falls onto their face.
And if I said I’d be in New York City Monday & Tuesday…what would you do about it?
Black and white photo of Cedar nude leaning against a windowsill in dappled sunlight. Their lips are slightly parted. Their face and tattoos are blurred for privacy
Bad news: 48hr date in LA for next week needed to cancel
Good news: I am available here in Philadelphia or to travel to San Francisco, Seattle, Milwaukee, St. Louis, Albuquerque, Chicago, Detroit, Atlanta, Cleveland, Providence, and any points in between #oursky
Good morning! 🌞 If you would like to see me in Washington D.C. sometime in the next two weeks, drop me a note #oursky #DateDC
