Whitni

I can't believe we have to protest fascism.....but, here we are!

Black 🏳️‍🌈 Queer and protecting my joy 😊

The security you crave is on the other side of the vulnerability you avoid. 🫂

Stay strong 💪 Find the balance between informing yourself and recharging yourself.
✅️ Protect your sleep 😴
✅️Exhange daily long hugs with loved ones 🫂
✅️ HYDRATE 💧
✅️ Nourish your body 🥗
✅️ Dance 🎶
✅️ Laugh
These things help us stay in the FIGHT ✊️

MISTAKE: Assuming good moments mean conflict is ‘over’ instead of revisiting unresolved tension.
🔄 PIVOT: Check in. “I know we had a tough moment earlier. I want to make sure we’re really okay—can we talk?”

MISTAKE: Using sarcasm or passive-aggression instead of direct communication (“Oh sure, I love being ignored.”)
🔄 PIVOT: Speak the truth with kindness. “I feel hurt when I don’t get a response. Can we talk about this?”

MISTAKE: Letting stress turn you against each other instead of uniting you (“Why are you like this?” “You always do this!”)
🔄 PIVOT: Make it us vs. the problem. “This situation is hard on both of us. How can we move through it together?”

MISTAKE: Assuming your partner knows what you need instead of expressing it (“They should just get it by now.”)
🔄 PIVOT: Get specific. “I’m feeling overwhelmed. I’d love for you to hold me or listen without fixing right now.”

MISTAKE: Dismissing your partner’s emotions (“You’re overreacting.” “That’s not a big deal.”)
🔄 PIVOT: Validate before problem-solving. “I hear you. That sounds really hard. Do you want support or just to vent?”

With all the political chaos, your relationship should be a refuge, not another stressful unknown. Let’s talk about common mistakes that erode trust & how to pivot toward deeper connection. A thread 🧵⬇️

I find it is so important that I protect my peace before bed and for a few hours after waking. If I am going to fight back I have to take care of me first.

I am so angry, sad, frustrated!!! People are dying!! This is so fucked up.

I can't keep waking up to "BREAKING NEWS" everyday!!! It's just January! This is chaos!

You cannot build healthy relationships with people that are more committed to avoiding DISCOMFORT, than they are committed to being connected to you.

Why are they calling him, Daddy?? 🤮

👋 hi and thank you!

If SHAME was a good motivator we'd all be millionaires.
If you want growth 🌱 SHIFT your self talk to kindness.
Putting yourself down is never going to lift you up.

Queer 🌈 Couples 📣
Gentle reminder: Stress affects libido in varying ways. For some it goes up ⤴️ and others it goes down ⤵️.

Thank you!!

Hi 👋 No clue how this all works yet. But, I am here......I am queer 🌈 and I help queer couples build secure connections and expand their intimacy!