Tame Lioness

Woman wearing a black leather title vest, with the large round patch for Westcoast Bound conference, encircled by 13 patches representing the years she's worked on the con. In the workshop at Doghouse Leathers

My new vest, made for my by @doghouseleathers.bsky.social with the patches for @encryptedevents.bsky.social and @wcbound.bsky.social

That's a lot of years of service. I still can't quite believe how long I've been with the conference. And so much more to come.

Nice. Someone who’s made a career out of lying about me showed up at our event tonight. You can stay, but Bug? This is my home. Behave yourself.

Petting a young bull

White faced monkey in a tree

Blue and yellow tanager

Barn owl in the rafters

Incredible trip. So many new friends

I love this so much.

Terrible photo, beautiful owl. Spectacled Owl

Her flirting - pic all dressed up looking incredible

Me flirting - pic of me in field gear looking like I was dragged through a swamp (I was) and so many reptile photos.

The world is on fire. This sloth brings joy

My day was pretty great

BareNecked Tiger Heron standing in tall grass. The neck is extended showing the markings

This gorgeous guy was hanging out along the road

Last year I saw great birds but couldn’t photograph them. That was T’s job and I was lost. Made a decision to buy gear and learn to use it. I’m so proud of me. My bird photos this trip are better than I had hoped

Mottled Owl asleep in bamboo grove

Sleepy owl is sleepy

Exactly. And take care of them they last forever. I sold my old Zeiss for nearly what I paid for them 20 years later, and could do the same with the Leicas

I've spent money over the years on things I came to regret. I have NEVER regretted buying weapons grade binoculars. They fill me with joy every time I use them.

Pardon me while I go bother some birds.

3rd set of Bulgarians and I powered through remembering the little growl @baconawa.bsky.social makes when he sees my ass on all fours.

Very motivating

It is completely unfair that T doesn't get a day pass from death to come pack my field gear. Like I'm supposed to KNOW what I need and how much of it? {{stares as stuff laid out on the bed}}

FFS

I handle travel logistics and I'm a wizard. He handled packing and could fit everything into nothing.

When you nail the black glade run? Waffle time

View of mountains at sunrise

The view from my deck over the hot tub. Looks like I get the sticks strapped on ASAP and hit the slopes

My fav athletic indulgences

- taking horses on cross country runs
- hurling myself down mountains on sticks
- getting worked over and plowed by @baconawa.bsky.social

Not in that order. Today was a mountain sort of day

Can attest the bed is better than new 👍

After he died, parts of me were sure I wouldn't be loved again and ALL of me was sure I'd be content but not happy.

And now? I'm loved. So loved. And crazy happy. I love living alone now, but I always know N loves me and I belong in his world.

Past me? Thank you for the karma you created.

Had a dinner with my former SIL to catch up. She was asking things about my childhood (which was solidly f'd up.) Growing up I knew I wouldn’t be loved or happy even after AA and therapy. Then T came, and wow. I really was loved and holy shit... I was happy.

was victim blaming.

Only the abuser abuses. I was not responsible for what he did nor were his other survivors. I was, and am responsible for recognizing red flags, and for using my agency to -as best I can - get myself out of bad situations.

I wrote about the work I did after Max_BLC's abuse. If I couldn't correct what in me accepted it for 2 years , then I couldn't be sure I wouldn't end up abused again. That writing took a LOT of heat from ppl saying that any suggestion I had agency in that and could have made better choices

I'm heading to a work event where many people are MAGA. Before I cared about keeping peace. Ppl knew my politics but I kept my mouth shut.

In this time? If I, a white cis woman in a position of influence DON'T call stuff out who will? Should be an interesting week. I'll be kind but I won't ignore

38K views · 2.6K reactions | We totally understood every single word. | This Hour Has 22 Minutes We totally understood every single word.

I love being Canadian. Especially since we're making fun our our leader for being smart and articulate instead of being, you know.... the orange guy www.facebook.com/reel/1448428...

Jericho YouTube video by k.d. lang - Topic

Song of the day. www.youtube.com/watch?v=rD5I...

You do you. I’m really happy

That is 100% informing my approach poly. The kindest thing I can do for my partner is to support their other relationships. I'll raise issues when/if they come up but I'm not competing for resources, or comparing myself, or trying to wedge myself in between. Maximum joy all around is the goal.

My core family are Quaker. Marriages are "under the care of the meeting' so those who attend and sign the certificate take on the responsibility to protect and support the marriage. Not to prop up abuse or enable unhappiness, but both not undermine the couple, and to hold positive intention.

I’ve upped my training routine. The look on @baconawa.bsky.social ‘s face when he looks at my ass is worth the pain