Dr. NerdLove

Nah, pretty sure that was still '95. That was an *early* mistake for me.

1996, when you lost your internal monologue

How Do I Meet New People Without Pretending To Be Someone I'm Not?

Now live on Patreon: I answer the most common question I get – what is the magic spell that will get me the life I want without having to make uncomfortable changes?

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I'm Struggling To Connect With Women. What Am I Doing Wrong? Making friends and connecting with women was easy and effortless when he was in his 20s. Now it's an unending struggle. What changed?

From The Archives: I’m Struggling To Connect With Women. What Am I Doing Wrong?

This Is Why Women Won't Date You It can be frustrating when women don't seem to want to date you. The Federalist provides a great example of just why women avoid certain men.

From The Archives: This Is Why Women Won’t Date You

There’s a New Yorker article that’s linked in this that had quotes from a couple users. Most of the “problem” was *shame*, not that masturbation was somehow interfering with their lives.

instead of "better or worse" you get asked how many lights there are

It certainly wouldn’t *hurt* and even if he ends up being more of a pantser than an architect, knowing the toolsets exist and how to use them would be helpful

Yup, I’m in there too, and I’m honestly kinda shocked.

Which part are they struggling with? Structure, craft, motivation, refinement? Would something like Stephen King’s “On Writing” or Chuck Wendig’s “Damn Fine Story” help?

Or do they need a moleskine, a pen and told to just go to town for a bit?

Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"

There's no shame in needing help with your love life. The only shame is in being too afraid to ask for it. Let me help you sort it all out! Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to docDr. NerdLove!

How Do I Let Go Of The Friends Who Chose My Abusive Ex? Leaving her abusive ex was bad enough, but "their" friends sided with her abuser! How can she learn to let go of people who were so important to her?

NEW COLUMN: Leaving her abusive ex was bad enough, but “their” friends sided with her abuser! How can she learn to let go of people who were so important to her?

ASK DR. NERDLOVE: How Do I Let Go Of The Friends Who Chose My Abusive Ex?

How Do I Let Go Of The Friends Who Chose My Abusive Ex?

Now on Patreon: breakups are bad; friends picking sides after a break up can be worse. But what do you do when your so-called friends choose your abuser over you? And how do you stop loving someone who lied so completely you don't know who he is anymore?

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How To Have That Awkward Conversation Some conversations are hard to have. Some are just terrifying. When the time comes, here's how to start and survive that awkward, difficult conversation.

From The Archives: How To Have That Awkward Conversation

K Arsenault Rivera with Seanan McGuire — 'Daughter of the Hunt' When a goddess falls for her sacrifice, can their love survive?

Speaking of next week, Seattlites can come watch me and @seananmcguire.bsky.social talk books!

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Jeebus

How Do I Know When I'm Emotionally Ready To Date? They've been overcoming a lifetime of emotional, sexual and religious trauma and live their best life. Now they want to know: when will they be ready to date?

From The Archives: How Do I Know When I’m Emotionally Ready To Date?

Image of a smartphone showing a romantic couple in silhouette against fairy lights in the background. Underneath a reminder notice says "SUBMIT A DATING ADVICE QUESTION!"

There's no shame in needing help with your love life. The only shame is in being too afraid to ask for it. Let me help you sort it all out! Send in your questions about love, sex and dating to ASK DR. NERDLOVE at doctornerdlove.com/c... or email them to docDr. NerdLove!

How Do I Let Go Of The Friends Who Chose My Abusive Ex? Leaving her abusive ex was bad enough, but "their" friends sided with her abuser! How can she learn to let go of people who were so important to her?

NEW COLUMN: Leaving her abusive ex was bad enough, but “their” friends sided with her abuser! How can she learn to let go of people who were so important to her?

ASK DR. NERDLOVE: How Do I Let Go Of The Friends Who Chose My Abusive Ex?

I fuckin' HATE those...

How Do I Let Go Of The Friends Who Chose My Abusive Ex?

Now on Patreon: breakups are bad; friends picking sides after a break up can be worse. But what do you do when your so-called friends choose your abuser over you? And how do you stop loving someone who lied so completely you don't know who he is anymore?

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Post Mortem: Why Do Women Have All The Advantages In Dating? How can a guy get a break in dating when it seems like women hold all the cards? DO women have all the advantages when it comes to getting relationships?

From The Archives: Post Mortem: Why Do Women Have All The Advantages In Dating?

"It lacks the dignity and gravitas of a middling English professor in a small New England liberal arts college dealing with his midlife crisis by banging his student/TA/college provost"

My Partner's Upset Over How Many People I've Dated! Her partner asked how many people she'd slept with... and now he can't stop being upset about her answer. How should she handle his jealousy?

From The Archives: My Partner’s Upset Over How Many People I’ve Dated!

In half an hour, join me as I attempt to wrap up the latest run of #CivilizationVII!

Working my way down the leader list has brought me to Augustus and his far too short battle skirt - see you soon!

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Yeah I can hear that too now…

WTFIWWY Live - Students, Where Are My Pants? - 3/2/26 YouTube video by Radio Dead Air

Talk about a terrible Winnie-the-Pooh impersonation ...

Some people just want to watch the world burn while their buttcheeks freeze.

Why, he's the hottest thing since World War III!

Selling ARCs hurts everyone involved in making the book happen--AND it's a dick move. Please don't be an asshole about us trying to give you fun, free, cool shit.

Don't buy or sell advance reader copies.