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And I get that these folks are frustrated and angry.

However, coining a phrase that would shame people for showing signs of solidarity or allyship - seems like a bad plan.

The clearer message is: If you talk the talk, walk the walk.

And then providing a tangible *ask*.

Not literally making fun of people who use symbols of solidarity - which is profoundly counterproductive - because symbols of solidarity have an essential function.

The disconnect is pretty obvious - performative allyship without action or real conviction is hollow.

We all agree.

But some folks really just jump to making fun of people for having signs on their yard or wearing pins or whatever...as if that's bad in and of itself.

The whole concept that "virtue signaling" is bad began as an alt-right talking point to shame people for explaining that the alt-right is immoral and that hurting people is bad.

The lesbian-coded character has arrived!

Drop something PINK.

SO CUTE!!

It's like he's in the middle of this social class hierarchy, that he is deeply uncomfortable with, but doesn't understand his own role in supporting it - when it comes to *other people*.

He is what he hates - basically - and it's a great story.

It is so interesting - the proud but violent guy can't stand being around the princess and her friends because they are the idle rich and he wants longs for the delusion of meritocracy and the female MC can't stand his insistence on giving her a "comfortable life" as his wife.

If you see this, post a rabbit.

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Kenshi Yonezu - Live from 2019 Tour / When The Spine Becomes Opal YouTube video by Kenshi Yonezu 米津玄師

OMG - Kenshi Yonezu has a March birthday as well!!!!

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Oh dear.

Watching Christian minds undergo extreme cognitive dissonance is strangely satisfying.

I used to be a devote Christian, you know - and I tried desperately to make it all make sense - and I just could not.

omg - and then they feel the need to "confess" to a congregation full of people.

Maybe talk to a therapist instead of being super weird about it.

Thank you!

The only moral duty we have is to treat people with respect - not to hate ourselves or other people - due to random thoughts and feelings that we have no real control over.

You know - the WHOLE idea that a beautiful woman "causes" a man to sin because he has "impure thoughts" - so she's the one who needs to be punished.

The solution is to just make peace with the fact that people have *thoughts* and that's okay - even if they aren't appropriate - they're thoughts.

And frankly, I think that's part of the underlying problem.

If you consider *thoughts* as the evil thing (or equivalent to the evil thing) - since thoughts are generally involuntary - who is there to blame besides the artist or the dress code?

It has to be their fault - or you're the evil one.

The best is when they HAVE read it and the reason they want it banned is because of their own *thoughts* and their thinly veiled kink comes out in their testimony.

Oh - you sweet sexual repressed puritans - you might want to make peace with being a sexual being.

They equate ignorance with "purity".

It's bad.

My typos are the BEST.

I can see the actors' breath.

They must be SO COLD.

They think gay penguins are pornographic.

And yeah:

That drama with an on-scene sexual assault of a minor should exist.

You know: Heartstopper

The story about a boy in high school working through the trauma from an unhealthy relationship with the help of his friends.

👍

Don't get SO UPSET - that you're willing to empower the goddamn THOUGHT POLICE.

Draw a line at REAL HARM - and give a shit about REAL HARM - not what may, or may not, have been going through someone's head.

Because not only does that NOT prevent harm, it will, inevitably, censor victims.

Don't misunderstand me.

Say that fiction that is FUCKED UP is FUCKED UP and WHY and HOW - I do that all day everyday. Insist that you have *tools* to avoid being exposed to certain media - like accurate tagging.

But don't equate *fucked up fiction* with harm or potential harm.

Like - I don't care about the ages of the CHARACTERS - I care about the ages of the ACTORS and their working conditions - because the ACTORS ARE REAL PEOPLE.

This shouldn't be rocket science, but apparently it is.

And my current opinion is that we need to STOP policing people's thoughts - and START actually giving a shit about REAL harm.

REAL harm - like exploitation of actors and deep fakes and revenge porn and actual abuse.

If you focus on being upset about THOUGHTS, you are ignoring REALITY.

It's the age-old problem - it is VERY difficult to punish FICTION that you think should not exist in the world and RETAIN the friction (and nonfiction) that you wish to retain.

I grew up during a VERY hot public censorship debate, amid a moral panic about popular music - same shit different day.

I can *accurately* describe Heartstopper in a way that will make it sound like an intensely problematic piece of pornography.

When anyone who has actually watched it would know - it's basically the MOST wholesome YA queer romance/ boylove drama that exist in the world.