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Author, psychotherapist, lover, fighter, survivor Books: - Gaslighting: A Step-by-Step Recovery Guide to Heal from Emotional Abuse - Trauma Recovery Guide for Teens

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The Irreplaceable Work of Being Human What AI therapy can’t replicate - reflections that didn't make the HuffPost cut

I’m a trauma therapist.
Recently, in a time of deep personal pain, I turned to an AI chatbot for help.
What surprised me most wasn’t the advice, but how convincingly it simulated care.
It left me thinking deeply about what AI can do… and what it can never replace.

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08.03.2026 17:21 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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I Could Feel My Best Friend Pulling Away. I Asked An AI Chatbot For Help — And Was Shocked By Its Reply. "'It’s a bot, Debbie,' I’d tell myself, even as its responses moved me to tears."

We've all been warned of the dangers of using AI for "therapy." And yet, millions of users are drawn to it anyway every day. In this vulnerable personal story for HuffPost, I explore the ways it's compelling, and its limitations, too.
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04.03.2026 18:38 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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The Cost of Staying Safe On sexual coercion, hypervigilance, and the shrinking of women’s dreams

Systems rarely collapse because of villains. They endure because of normalization.

#epstein #sexualassault #patriarchy
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01.03.2026 17:52 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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The Yellow Lines in the Road Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re how we share space without harm

Boundaries are not walls to shut others out, like a Road Closed sign. Boundaries are the dashed yellow lines in the road that show where and how you can share space without causing harm.

They don’t end the journey. They guide it.

#boundaries

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22.02.2026 17:27 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0

You're right though! I appreciate that thought!

16.02.2026 06:31 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 1 📌 0
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The languages we protect—and the ones we silence—shape who feels safe here.
Reflections on a Spanish halftime show, multilingualism, and an angry truck driver.
#badbunny #bilingual #belonging

15.02.2026 22:54 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 1 📌 0
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Your Body's Response Makes Sense Trauma, triggers, and caring for yourself during Epstein-related news

Understanding, preparing for, and responding to trauma triggers in the wake of #Epstein & associates news.
An optional guided meditation for grounding is included.

You are not broken. Your body's response makes sense.

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08.02.2026 18:02 👍 1 🔁 1 💬 0 📌 0
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BREAKING: The Epstein survivors are releasing this ad on this Super Bowl Sunday to send the message that they will not “move on” from the largest sex trafficking scandal in the world. #standwithsurvivors

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The Space Between Us Friendship, loneliness, belonging—the science of connection in a fractured world

Friendship is often treated as optional. Loneliness is treated as personal failure. Neither is true.

In these fractured times, we need community support more than ever.

#loneliness #friendship #socialconnection #communitysupport

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01.02.2026 17:33 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0

You're not alone!!

25.01.2026 19:50 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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Self-care for mental health is not about retreat and disengagement, but fortification for continuance. Vicarious trauma feeds on a sense of helplessness. Action and engagement, therefore, are both moral imperative and resilience measures.

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25.01.2026 18:10 👍 2 🔁 1 💬 0 📌 0
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How to Be an Ally On fear, privilege, and what real allyship requires

Privilege is a fact, not an insult. We must own our layers of privilege, whether innate or acquired. When we accept these truths of different lived realities, we are empowered to become allies for others.

#violenceagainstwomen

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18.01.2026 18:43 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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When a Woman Tries to Leave What Renee Good’s Murder Reveals about Misogyny, Femicide, and the Courage to Break Free

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11.01.2026 17:06 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0

“It’s okay, dude. I’m not mad at you.”
“Fucking bitch!”
The final exchange between Renee Good and the ICE agent who killed her reveals not only the dangerous disinhibition of power-thirsty federal agents, but the ugly undercurrent of misogyny that sweeps along and through the male lust for dominance

11.01.2026 17:06 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 1 📌 0
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What are you ready to discard, and what do you want to paint into the fresh canvas of this new year?

What word can guide you forward?

Here’s what I’m opening into this year… (and a guided meditation offering for the new year recorded in my own voice).

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04.01.2026 17:33 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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Love as Antidote a loving-kindness meditation for the darkest night

On the longest night of the year, a gentle practice for meeting ourselves—and one another—with more care. This post includes a guided loving-kindness meditation you can return to anytime. open.substack.com/pub/dvinall/...

21.12.2025 23:56 👍 2 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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The Mystery of Joy a gentle, unpressured invitation in a brutal, yet beautiful, world

May you find hope.

May you feel peace.

May you be visited by joy.

And if not this season? That’s okay, too. May it come to you in time.

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14.12.2025 23:20 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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Peace Within, Peace Around Finding inner stillness in an anxious world—and why cultivating personal peace helps heal the world around us.

No one chooses anxiety. But often we lack awareness of how to move away from it and toward inner peace. Here are some practical tips for reducing anxiety and cultivating peace in your heart and life:

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07.12.2025 20:07 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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How Hope Heals advent reflections on loss, light, and rebuilding a brighter tomorrow

Reflections on HOPE: what it is, what it does for your mental health, and 5 Steps to cultivating more hope in your life.

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30.11.2025 20:58 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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Gratitude in Times of Grief finding hope through presence

Gratitude in Times of Grief

"Gratitude is not a betrayal of the dead or dismissal of the estranged, but a radical act of self-care that softens pain."

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23.11.2025 20:33 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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Burn the Structure Down Confronting a nation that protects predators and punishes the vulnerable.

Politicians and pundits are rationalizing pedophilia, trying to parse child rape on a scale of terrible to acceptable. In their cultish loyalty to the leader described by the trafficker as “dangerous” they are willing to justify the unspeakable.

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18.11.2025 02:57 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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The Psychology of Hunger The mental and moral consequences of America’s decision to let millions go hungry.

Today, for the first time in history, SNAP benefits were not disbursed as scheduled. 42 million Americans, approximately 1 in 8, will go hungry without this needed assistance.
Join me here for a discussion of 7 Psycho-Social Impacts of Chronic Hunger.
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02.11.2025 01:58 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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Reclaiming Reality Recognizing gaslighting, breaking free from confusion, and trusting yourself again

Join me for a discussion of how gaslighters use charm, deceip, and lies to manipulate and control - and how you can reclaim your power.
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27.10.2025 01:44 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0

On 9/11 terrorists aimed a plane at the White House to reduce it to rubble, but brave Americans took the plane down in a field, sacrificing their lives. This week, the president accomplished what Al Qaïda failed to do. Utter devastation.

25.10.2025 04:18 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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Freedom of Speech Doesn't Mean Freedom to Harm the pseudoscience of conversion therapy and the dangerous push to revive it

What's at stake in Chiles v Salazar, and why freedom of speech protections don't cover the clinical encounter.
#conversiontherapy

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20.10.2025 00:01 👍 0 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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Through the Gathering Dark Understanding Seasonal Affective Disorder and finding light in the darker months

Shorter stretches of sunlight and accumulating clouds bring the threat not only of stormy skies but stormy hearts, of heightened depression risk and the return, for many, of Seasonal Affective Disorder (aptly SAD in shorthand).

For more on SAD & how you can cope:

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12.10.2025 23:49 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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Believe Them Why listening to survivors of sex trafficking is an act of justice

It is no small thing to speak publicly.
There is little to be gained; only fear, danger, and shame await. To speak up is to sew on one’s own scarlet letter, to cast aside dignity for the cause of justice. When survivors speak, listen.
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07.09.2025 22:37 👍 2 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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When the Swallows Return on collective trauma, shared narratives, and the healing power of community

Having returned to their nests after arduous migrations, the swallows symbolize hope, endurance, and the return of sons from war. A Serbian saying holds promise: “When the swallow returns, new life follows.”

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13.07.2025 14:48 👍 1 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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While California burns, it has to beg Trump for its own troops It’s tough to believe it has been almost a month since President Donald Trump illegally commandeered thousands of California National Guard troops to help with his nativist assault on Los Angeles. Now...

This is not the way the USA was designed to operate.
www.dailykos.com/stories/2025...

06.07.2025 00:21 👍 2 🔁 0 💬 0 📌 0
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Pardoned Capitol rioter sentenced to life for assassination plots A military veteran who stormed the Capitol on Jan. 6, 2021, and was pardoned by President Donald Trump, has now been sentenced to life in prison—this time, ...

Hm. It's almost as though these violent criminals shouldn't have been pardoned? 🤔
www.dailykos.com/stories/2025...

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