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Her tactic was ...ineffective

It also made me the target of such vicious misgender bullying, I nearly unalived myself

I vowed then to have the final say on my own hair

Regardless of toxic people & their aesthetic

So my hair remains long

While robbing the tradwives of perceived allyship ๐Ÿชฎ

11.03.2026 00:26 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

I am used to the reactionary aspects of my hair

Mom had this delusional idea that child me would be safe from predators if I looked like a boy as opposed to the way too unsupervised bastard daughter of a single mom

So she forced short hair on me until I threatened to drop out of school at age 14

11.03.2026 00:26 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

My hair has a small following among children at book sales

The first time I wore my hair unpinned to a sale,
a little girl asked me if I was Ariel "because I know you aren't Merida, that's who I am!"

So apparently, dresses aren't required in order to look like a Disney Princess

Noted

11.03.2026 00:26 ๐Ÿ‘ 2 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

I wear pocketed cargos / jeans & refuse to carry a purse bc too many book sales I attend go the way of literal mosh pits

A purse would slow me down & is too tantalizing a weapon to at my competition with

And while book sale Me is fierce to the point of being feral, I am not *rude*

So no purse
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11.03.2026 00:26 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

The scissors don't need to be hidden; I have no intention of cutting my hair shorter

The thing is, I love wearing my hair long styled in "traditional feminine" ways

All the more so bc I have limited chances to dress in "princessโ€, renn faire, & regency era costuming I am also obsessed with +

11.03.2026 00:26 ๐Ÿ‘ 2 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Mom: Well, they didn't need to use "m*aga" when "Tradwife" was right there

Me: ๐Ÿ˜ฑWHAT did you just say???!!!๐Ÿ˜ฑ

Mom: Wait, you didn't know you have tradwife hair?!

Me, jokingly indignant: LITTLE MERMAID IS ALSO RIGHT THERE!!!

Mom: I'll hide the scissors & order you Midnight Ruby hair dye then ๐Ÿ˜‚

11.03.2026 00:26 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 1

The Erica photo mom pulls up is slightly different

The length & curl is the same, only this time, the very front part is worn in a braided crown on top of her head

EXACTLY the way I wear my hair when I need it out of my face & my all time favorite style for attending book sales

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11.03.2026 00:26 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

I follow Resisters on my other Bluesky & pictures of a certain Erica are polluting it

Her "unstyled" hair is flowing freely, the same length (& curl level I favor) mine was a week ago

So I tell mom (who witnessed one of the "m*ga hair" comments) to look Erica up as an example

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11.03.2026 00:26 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Is that the one that Kate from Jon and Kate + 8 popularized?

10.03.2026 20:58 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0
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Ash has FIP!

This is where we need your help. Between the medicine and bloodwork, Ashโ€™s treatment will cost over $2,000. This is a LOT for a small rescue to take on. As with all of the cats that come in to our care, this girl is worth every penny!

Consider making a donation

10.03.2026 19:52 ๐Ÿ‘ 30 ๐Ÿ” 23 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 2 ๐Ÿ“Œ 2

FEED ME, SEYMOUR ๐ŸŒฑ

10.03.2026 17:13 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

To anyone who votes in American elections and who has also ever changed their last name

But ESPECIALLY to Republican women,

I hope you enjoyed your freedom to vote while you had it

Once the SAVE Act passes, you won't be voting anymore

And yes, *you DID, indeed, vote for this*

#FAFO

09.03.2026 15:42 ๐Ÿ‘ 0 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Stop calling him an "embarrassment"

It minimizes his impact on and the threat he poses to hundreds of millions of people

He's a mass murderer and a serial rapist

09.03.2026 15:35 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Bees and hornets and yellowjackets too

09.03.2026 15:28 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Have the orb people commented yet

09.03.2026 15:25 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Yep

09.03.2026 15:22 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Happy birthday ๐ŸŽ‚

09.03.2026 14:14 ๐Ÿ‘ 0 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

No problems, just like to know which protein I'm eating so I can watch my cholesterol ๐Ÿ˜€

09.03.2026 14:07 ๐Ÿ‘ 2 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Thank you!

09.03.2026 14:02 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Huge lips and huge cheekbones, achieved by injections of collagen & filler, and/or surgery. Really waxy looking skin. False eyelashes. It's technically called "Mar-A-Lago Face" and there's a female and male version of it.

Imo, they all look like "plastic surgery gone wrong" cases

09.03.2026 14:01 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

What are you serving at the buffet these days?

09.03.2026 05:28 ๐Ÿ‘ 3 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Me either

Until the first comment

And then I googled it and still haven't recovered

There's also "m*ga face*, but fortunately I am in no danger of THAT

09.03.2026 05:26 ๐Ÿ‘ 2 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

๐Ÿ˜‚ for the denim skirted middle aged pentecostal woman

09.03.2026 05:24 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 2 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

That's why I kept mine long enough to braid and to tie in a knot of top of my head - I can't cope with it when it's too short to tie in a knot

09.03.2026 05:23 ๐Ÿ‘ 0 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

My hair on Halloween

bsky.app/profile/jenm...

09.03.2026 05:21 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Me: Spends 7 years growing my shoulder length hair to my waist

Me, after the 3rd "Oh your hair is *so* M*GA & beautifulโ€ comment: chops off 4 inches

Now it's just above my lower back

Still long

Just not "M*GA long"

And much easier to care for & style with my slightly disabled hands

09.03.2026 01:42 ๐Ÿ‘ 4 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 3 ๐Ÿ“Œ 1

Me with the Idaho4 case

But the formerly robust population of fellow obsessives have also abandoned X

I'm pleased for them

The YouTube crowd was always more welcoming anyways

09.03.2026 01:30 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

Today, I'm singing

๐ŸŽตgoodbye
to people whose every word is just a lie
like a guilty man who knows he's gonna fry๐ŸŽต

While laughing at the departure of Vinay Prassad from the FDA

May all the people he killed weigh on his soul for eternity

#WhyWhyWhy
#TheAirborneToxicEvent

09.03.2026 01:26 ๐Ÿ‘ 2 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

I'm a lightweight too!

08.03.2026 19:10 ๐Ÿ‘ 1 ๐Ÿ” 1 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 1 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0

So much

08.03.2026 19:10 ๐Ÿ‘ 0 ๐Ÿ” 0 ๐Ÿ’ฌ 0 ๐Ÿ“Œ 0