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Joshua Graves

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Author of We Need to Talk, a book on how to have hard conversations if you hate having them. Out now! Also: horror writer, artist, curious human, spooky boy. πŸ‘» joshuagraves.me

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What kind of cat is this

17.09.2025 19:38 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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a woman in a red dress holds a microphone and says you get one and you get one we all get one ALT: a woman in a red dress holds a microphone and says you get one and you get one we all get one

RSVP if you like getting more spam and getting on Lists. Don’t RSVP and show up if you like getting on Other Lists when you do! Lists for everyone!

17.09.2025 02:27 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
A glowing lantern with an emerald cut out

A glowing lantern with an emerald cut out

Part of my weekend included a little glowforge project, a little lantern! Bonus points if you can guess the band it’s associated with!

15.09.2025 17:54 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
Wednesday Addams with caption β€œbarely restrained seething”

Wednesday Addams with caption β€œbarely restrained seething”

12.09.2025 22:00 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Little reminder that I have a website with a massive archive of artwork, links to all my stuff, an RSS feed, and an email newsletter!

12.09.2025 16:02 πŸ‘ 29 πŸ” 9 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
David lynch in sunglasses says β€œwhat a great time to be alive if you love theater of the absurd”

David lynch in sunglasses says β€œwhat a great time to be alive if you love theater of the absurd”

12.09.2025 16:41 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Yeah, I got 8% on my book! Definitely not Rolling In It β„’ but it’s honest work!

12.09.2025 02:56 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Incredible

11.09.2025 15:48 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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Want to short-circuit a gaslighter? Here’s how.

PS: You’ll see a few videos about this from me, it’s a big biiiig topic.

#weneedtotalk #communicationskills

09.09.2025 19:13 πŸ‘ 2 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Someone once told me every food is trying to be a dumpling and I really never forgot it

08.09.2025 20:32 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Not complying will result in sanctions. And those get disgusting real fast.

So, don’t keep things around that can be used against you. Because believe me, they absolutely can and will.

#infosec #privacy
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08.09.2025 20:26 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Discovery can’t force the service provider to break end-to-end encryption, but if you have the ability to access or decrypt the chats, a court can compel you to produce them. The usual workaround is device-level access, exports, or screenshots.
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#infosec #privacy

08.09.2025 20:25 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0
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Introducing Signal Secure Backups In the past, if you broke or lost your phone, your Signal message history was gone. This has been a challenge for people whose most important conversations happen on Signal. Think family photos, sweet...

This is really neat, and I think they solved the problem in a cool way.

For me, I don’t want my chats backed up to an external server. Especially anything that I couldn’t self host.

Going through a vicious legal discovery process really changed all this for me. #infosec #privacy

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08.09.2025 20:25 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0

I will absolutely not hesitate to join a suit if they steal We Need to Talk. It didn’t appear to be in the below suit given that it was released this year, but I’m keeping an eye out.

08.09.2025 20:12 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Submitted a short horror story I’ve worked on for a few months to @3lobedmag.com! It’s cosmic horror with maternal trauma, and includes tentacles and other requisite gross but very fun stuff.

05.09.2025 19:39 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I wonder if this is an analogue of their worldview which would…kinda track with everything going on lately

05.09.2025 19:36 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I submitted a story! Love what you all do <3

05.09.2025 18:45 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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hornet photo study

04.09.2025 22:41 πŸ‘ 8253 πŸ” 2744 πŸ’¬ 34 πŸ“Œ 14
Two dogs laying on the floor and cuddling. One a large German shepherd, the other a medium size boxer mix. The medium size dog thinks she can take the larger one. She cannot.

Two dogs laying on the floor and cuddling. One a large German shepherd, the other a medium size boxer mix. The medium size dog thinks she can take the larger one. She cannot.

Hey the world can really suck sometimes but I did download Hollow Knight Silksong last night and it’s incredible. Also, my dogs are cute

05.09.2025 16:22 πŸ‘ 3 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
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Is the chat getting out of hand? Here are some ways to stop it from spiraling.

#weneedtotalk #communicationskills

04.09.2025 19:13 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

Unless you’re a pastor at a mega church I guess? Lol

04.09.2025 18:21 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I once used to be a photographer for hire and had that type ask me to shoot their wedding for them. β€œAs a ministry.” Which meant free. To…glorify Jesus somehow?

04.09.2025 16:48 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0
Spirit Photography Mixed media collage.

I love these photos. I did a small series on spirit photography a while back! joshuagraves.me/making/art/s...

03.09.2025 04:51 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0
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Ooooh passive aggressiveness at work is my favorite topic to talk about. Here’s (just a few ways on) how to handle it.

#weneedtotalk #communicationskills

02.09.2025 19:13 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

It is, but it’s so fun. I enjoyed seeing all the others I’d fought there. (And one Animal I’d killed)

02.09.2025 15:53 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

An update: I had some docker remnants in my Library folder (com.docker), apparently rsync was going to copy over 1tb of…nothing? I removed that.

31.08.2025 04:56 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

…yeah. :/

31.08.2025 02:30 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

I’m very interested to see the design response. Like, you want to go this route? Fine. We’re gonna go back to OS 9.

31.08.2025 01:40 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0
The Whispering Earring (Scott Alexander) - Croissanthology

Related, you ever read this? It’s a good allegory. croissanthology.com/earring

31.08.2025 01:22 πŸ‘ 0 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 0 πŸ“Œ 0

It’s also broader reworking of my threat model after being stalked last year.

I discovered a tracking device in my furniture after moving out, learned that someone had broken into my home and accessed my computer, in addition to other things.

So I’m just redoing everything basically.

31.08.2025 01:18 πŸ‘ 1 πŸ” 0 πŸ’¬ 1 πŸ“Œ 0