the original GEMNet connector. it has a metal housing, and is just slightly too big to fit in Ford's connector. I cut away the metal housing with pliers.
the hacked up connector with some heat shrink hiding the mess
the hacked up connector successfully connected to a Ford Gateway Module PCB
the hacked up connector (using the little plastic piece at the center, with the metal shielding of the connector cut away)
I was unable to find the "Ethernet Master Connector used on #Ford's Gateway Module (#ECG2)
So I hacked up #TEConnectivity's similar #GEMNet connector to make it fit