Double Bind
damned if you do, damned if you don't
_double bind is a dilemma incommunication in which an individual (or group) receives two or more mutually conflicting messages. In some scenarios (such as within families or romantic relationships), this can be emotionally distressing, creating a situation in which a successful response to one message results in a failed response to the other (and vice versa), such that the person responding will automatically be perceived as in the wrong, no matter how they respond._ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double_bind
* _Double bind theory was first stated byGregory Bateson and his colleagues in the 1950s,[1] in a theory on the origins of schizophrenia. It was theorized that schizophrenic responses were a reaction to an individual facing competing demands, leaving them with no clear way of responding.[2]_
* _Double binds are often utilized as a form of control without opencoercion—the use of confusion makes them difficult both to respond to and to resist._
* cf matrix management
http://www.behavenet.com/capsules/treatments/famsys/dblebnd.htm
http://ub-counseling.buffalo.edu/Abpsy/lecture13.html
http://www.envf.port.ac.uk/illustration/images/vlsh/codepend/dbind.htm
